The achievement of success in our time has become one of the main personal paradigms, while the filling of the word "success" for everyone may be different. Someone works diligently to achieve success in business, someone does not think success without realizing themselves in parent or creativity, for someone a real success - public recognition and thousands of subscribers in social networks. Whatever understanding of success, the path to its achievement is usually not easy. On how to overcome all obstacles on the way to success, we talked to the psychologist by Anna Smetanenica.
Anna, success - the concept is very subjective. What is for one success, for another may be fail. How to formulate for ourselves life goals and desires so that on the one hand they really led to success, and on the other, were real, achievable?
For me, success is all that I want. After all, this is personally about me, my goals and desires. There is no common to all definition of success. After all, not everyone wants a million dollars, for someone this amount is a goal and a success rate, and for another - an unattainable dream. But he does not need this million.
There is one good NLP technique (neuro-linguistic programming) - a well-defined result. So the main thing and the main thing in it is to understand what you really want. Is this a goal and do you need to reach it.
The second important point is a sequence. There may be a global goal and strategy, and secondary goals, the implementation of which will lead to the main one. And if you immediately swing on the global, then you can go along, and not to reach, throwing halfway. Thus, it is important to hear and listen to yourself, in not chanting for someone's success.
Is it worth correlating a personal success with what is customary to be considered success in society? Or are it worth navigating more on the personal skill of achievements?
I'll tell you on my example. My personal success is acquaintance with Vladimir Presnyakov in student years, for example. Is it necessary for someone else? Or, for example, moving to Moscow from Orenburg at age 17. Now my success is that I became Synergy Global Forum speaker almost one scene with Tony Robbins. But for more than half of the country, this is an unknown name, so, of course, we must focus on our needs. Although there is a big problem in this - most people do not know themselves, do not understand what they really want, they grab about other people's successes, and then they argue that "it is only for the rich", "need connections and money" and so on. The desire of light money is present in the heads of our people, and for each success there is a totality of information and knowledge, energy and motivation, actions and overcoming. Often, personal success is the team's work if we are talking about global brands and names. The moment comes when a person no longer copes with volumes, but motivation and energy is always inside the founder, personality.
To achieve your goal, you need to understand what it is, this goal
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Failure - the reverse side of success, few people did not come across failures. How to survive them, especially if they happen one after one?
Failure is an assessment of the mind. If we stop evaluating actions, and simply will do, do and do, then successful and lucky people will become more. We are accustomed to evaluate everything and all and from this we lose stream, movement and charge that carries us to the goal. There is such a prerequisite in NLP - there is no failure, there is a feedback that we analyze and extract experience. And then go on to goals, given this experience. The more failure, the more experienced and stronger the person becomes. Just we were inspired in childhood that failures and mistakes are terribly bad, so we are so afraid of them. Therefore, this fear is so inhibits us on the way to desires.
Achieving success is impossible without motivation. What to draw this motivation? Where to look for forces on the way to success?
Motivation is the basis of personal success. Without her finish, it is extremely difficult to reach. Moreover, if you have a team, then you need to be a motivator for others at some stage. After all, people are accustomed to work for salary from 9-18. And so that they want to do something more, you need a huge stimulus. It is important to find values and unrealized needs, as it is customary to speak in marketing - pain. The easiest option: There is not enough money for a ring of your beloved wife, make 200 sales and get a bonus. Or focus on the need of the need and the importance of a team member.
But if with the motivation of others even more or less can be understood, then motivate yourself - the task is more complicated. And then we have emotions, feelings, feelings, the condition that we catch moving towards the aid. All the mental designs will die, and emotions and sensations will move us, as we first and the living organism. Your goals should break you in good sense of the word, delight, inspire. And all these processes are just inside our body, and not outside. The picture that we imagine will call emotions, and so thanks to this response, we continue our way.
As for the strength, I personally enjoy the mode of work and recreation. I myself is responsible for my resource. If I drag the energy and exhaust, it means that I don't know myself very well. After all, in our power to manage these processes and yourself. My lifehaki is a dream from 22-30 to 6-30, morning time for yourself, breakfast at the same time, after 19-00 - no work. That is how I will be inspired and restored. If I break the mode, my motivation falls, because there is simply no resource. Find your key to yourself yourself, find out when you are in working condition, that is, at the peak of your mental and physiological activity.
How would you formulate three main rules for achieving success?
Finding the soul.
To be honest and others.
Live on the principle - get to give.
In your opinion, every person can succeed? How to believe in yourself?
Absolutely everyone. It is important to find what will excite your brain and body, that is, it will strive to there, to this success.
To believe in yourself, ask yourself - why? Why do I want to believe in myself? Next, ask again to each answer - why? So you will find your deep motivation, and it will give you strength, resources and desire to be in this world, manifest itself. As Nlper say: "Daily be great." What everyone wish.