It would seem that in psychology everything is simple: a healthy person is the one who listens to himself and exercises his desires if they do not contradict the law and the norms of morality. True, everything is wrong in life - many people love to suffer and really do not want to change anything, even if they constantly complain about a distress. To be satisfied with his life and enjoy every day, tell about the universal rules from the book of the famous psychologist.
Do just what you want
Starting from work, ending with a personal life, you need to be guided by one rule: do the way you want. The combination of logical and emotional intelligence will help you in making a solution much more than the advice of acquaintances or history from the Internet - do anyway in your own way. A psychologist believes that a healthy person from nature cannot arise "non-ecological" thoughts that injured the feelings of other people.
Enjoy life
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Don't do what you don't want to do
If you do not like the idea to run in the morning or work out of the office - why do it? Any situation can be changed in a positive side. True, it will require your time and participation: you will have to further learn, come up with alternative options, build your own image and work out many other factors. If you are ready for this, act!
Immediately talk about what I don't like
It is terrible to imagine how many relationships were destroyed due to the banal constraint of partners. We often think that in your own words we can offend or dispel your loved one. True, these beliefs almost always have nothing to do with reality. Think for yourself, and not for another. Clearly say that you do not like the person to have the opportunity to solve this problem or explain to you why he does not want to change anything.
Do not respond when not asked
The unborn tips are inflicted absolutely everyone, even if they are expressed in a positive form. The habit of learning how to raise children, distribute money, behave with the opposite sex and so on - a bad tone. If a person is interested in your opinion, he openly ask for this: "Masha, tell me how I enroll in this situation ..." Amateur in this matter is a bad habit from which it is better to get rid of everyone.
Answer only to the question
Surely you saw in the movie humorous scenes, where Mom tells the child: "What did you make?" After he begins to explain that he did not want to break the vase, although his mother had in mind the sofa spoiled by juice. The situation of the situation is dispersed, however, the meaning is the same: no need to answer more than you asked, and comment on the whole situation or to put forward the return accusations to the asking. Guided by this principle, you will noticeably reduce the number of conflicts with others.
In the dialog, answer only the question
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Finding out the relationship, talk only about yourself
Words like "I's offensive me, because ..." or "I don't like it, when ..." They will tell the interlocutor much more about the conflict situation and your feelings than open accusations of his address. You can't know what the person feels and why he did so, and not otherwise, until he himself tells you about it. Then why scold him alone? Believe in indisputable to people: mistakes do everything, the main thing in time to recognize them and solve the problem.