Cause First: Missing stereotypes
When you meet, the girl and young man behave according to the traditions of their families. Suppose that the mother of a young man is a woman in a bathrobe at the kitchen stove. Dad came from work angry and tired, dinner, went to the sofa and watched TV. And the girl in the family dad believed that the woman should be beautiful, meet her man with a smile, in fashionable home clothes. How will relationships between lovers be pretentiated in this case? A young man is used to seeing a woman at home in a bathrobe. And the girl meets his beloved with a smile, painted, beautifully dressed. A man thinks: where did she get together? And begins to jealous. Very often in order to preserve relationships, a woman refuses his life beliefs and closes. In response, men appear about treason. A man thinks that another woman will give him more attention, will appreciate and take care.
What to do? To begin with, do it yourself. Let your energy be directed not to preserve the family, but on you. What can be taken from an empty vessel? Nothing. The vessel must be filling with energy, new knowledge, impressions, love for yourself. Rejecting himself and their own lows and habits, you lose your personality, faith in yourself, and a person who is near you feels. If you do not like yourself, how can someone else love you?
Larisa Sitnikova
Cause Second: Mistress
The husband started his mistress, although, perhaps, at the same time he still loves his wife. For many men, such a model of relationship is the norm. As a rule, those men are guided by instincts. Perhaps the problem is again from childhood when the boy saw such a behavior of his father.
What to do? Most likely, a woman at the very beginning of the relationship made a mistake without referring to their borders. The topic of loyalty has never been discussed, and the man decided that it was in the order of things. If you learned about your mistress, then you need to talk to my husband and understand why treason happened and what the spouse has plans. Perhaps he recognizes a mistake. In any case, you can decide whether you can live with such a person or not. But to go to victims for the sake of children or housing, suppressing yourself, not needed.
The reason is the third: the husband sobbed
Sometimes a woman is so absorbed in maternal care, work or hobby, which forgets about his beloved. The man in this case feels his closerness and begins to seek things outside the house. It is not involved in the process of creating a family, so it does not represent values for him. Over time, he appears new hobbies, friends and, as a result, communication on the side.
What to do? Try to plan the weekend together. Always ask your husband's husband and show the importance of his opinion for you, a man should feel his need and realizable in relationships. Of course, it is difficult for you to seriously be interested in football or fishing, but to show elementary non-equilibrium to your husband's hobbies is quite bye.