In childhood, we simply could not have any problems in order to find a friend - for this it was necessary to simply approach another child on the street and ask: "Will you be my friend?" Everything, in a couple of minutes you are inventing a new game. Becoming older, we gradually change their circle of communication, someone leaves our lives, other people come to their place, who can also gradually "go to the sunset". But what to do, if you already have 30 and you understand that there are no people around you who could you trust? Today we decided to discuss this particular problem.
We are looking for friends stages
The first, where to start, - look back and "look around." With great likelihood you will notice that at least one person with whom you could communicate more often if they were not so shipped. If, besides the work, you are not passionate about anything, try to write on the courses in interests or in the fitness center, where they collected since last year - such places are often helping to unite many people.
And now you found a person who is pleasant to you, about it seems to not mind talking about what to do next? The main thing, try not to impose your company - it loves few people. First talk to general topics, gradually go to the topic of common interests, it's hard to say here that it is that man will hooked in you or what will interest you in it. In any case, do not silent, but do not impose without reason. Act about the situation.
Become a friend to myself first
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If everything is fine, the person will begin to take the initiative and discuss the general topics or the latest news will become the ritual already familiar to you. At this moment, you can offer a man joint activities, for example, to go to the movies or in a cafe on the weekend. Friendly contacts are fairly friendly.
Try to always create a good impression of yourself, at least as long as you just started communicating with a person and he has not yet had time to explore you. What is included in the concept of "good impression?" First, try not to be late, do not interrupt, do not criticize. Secondly, you are interested in the life of another person, do not say all the time about yourself and your problems, because the essence of friendship is to support each other and want to help a close person. Forgetting about it, you should not be surprised why suddenly a person disappeared somewhere and does not want to communicate.
Be always an interesting interlocutor. It is important here to remember that people are always interested in communicating with those who can tell something, teach or with those with whom it is not boring. This can be achieved, constantly developing, wondering something new. Be sure that as soon as you become an interesting person for yourself, people around involuntarily reach out for you.