Each of us saw the unfortunate mothers who are frightened on the sides, while in front of them on the floor simply poured the child. We pass by with a condemning view, but most people without children simply do not understand how hard to calm the child who excited the child. Of course, you can advise my mother to buy something that the child wants so much, and on this tantrum will stop, but no: if you go on the child, in a short time you are not finished just a toy, because the requests of your son or daughter grow together with them.
the child will check your willpower
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In this situation there are outputs: buy or not to buy. Suppose you agreed, bought not too cheap thing, it would seem - the child is happy with a new acquisition, you are happy that hysteria is over. But here you go to the exit, and along the way an even more interesting department, where the child naturally wants to look. And here you are waiting for hysterics.
After a while, if the child lives on the principle "rolled off hysteria - got the desired," he starts the problems first in kindergarten, and then at school, where to get everything you want, it is impossible. Do you want such problems?
The second option is to stand on your last. No need to think that those surrounding somehow not so look at you. Yes, some will even start giving advice, but you do not have to listen to anyone: this is your child, and only you decide how to do. Moreover, you are not alone, because millions of parents face such a situation every day around the world. It is difficult to refuse, but maybe.
Try to distract his attention
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What to do?
Of course, you can not always leave the child and go to the store, so you have to learn how to make hysterics or cope if it has already begun.
- First, you must learn to feel your child: to predict the beginning of the hysteria. As soon as they predicate the "storm", immediately switch the attention of the baby to another object, translate the topic.
- If your child already knows what is "expensive" and "cheap", take a limited amount of money so that the child understands that there is simply no funds for an unplanned purchase. Even better if you show him an empty wallet.
- If the hysterical started, do not begin to scream in response: it is useless. When a child understands that his "performance" does not cause the necessary emotions from the mother, over time he will stop attempts to achieve desired through a cry.
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- The child from the very early age it is necessary to make it clear that you can express your discontent not only cry, but also by a normal request. Children tend to love such an approach, because it seems to them that they come "as adults", and children, as you know, seek to repeat everything for the elders.
- Before entering the store, give the child to his favorite toy. As soon as he starts to hump in the store, tell me: "You have a toy. She will be offended if you buy a new one. " If it does not help, the child will try to "press" on you publicly on the street. In this case, take it to your arms and take into a quiet little place where you try to talk to him and drink water. Promise to go to a cafe or pass the baby's favorite route along the way home, but only with good behavior.