All we are not perfect - this is a fact. We can boil on an empty place because of a hard working day, unconsciously manipulate others or stand on their right to the last. It is important not to blame yourself for the wrongness, but to work on errors and change for the better from the inside. We tell about the phrases that you need to throw out once and forever from your speech.
"You will do what I said!"
An attempt to subjugate the behavior of their desires - evidence of egoism. A child who since childhood is taught there is what they have prepared, to wear what they bought and act as they said - the future unfortunate adult. Later, he will have problems with the misunderstanding of his own desires and attempts to find a partner who satisfies the relative model of relationships. Be not a whip, but a gingerbread - any behavior expected from the child can be explained by a calm tone in a conversation on equal. And the more often you will listen to the desires of your Chad, the faster it will become obedient. The child whose parents are considered with his opinion, there is no motivation to deceive and go the curve of the track - he knows that adults will support any of his weighted decision.
Do not play the nerves of the child
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"Let me rest normally!"
When after work you come tired and want to relax a little, you will probably go to the sofa and go to social networks. Psychologists believe that this indicates dependence on the Internet and public approval. A person who broadcasts all his life in social networks is actively commented by the posts of groups and replaces these real social activity inside is deeply unhappy. His life is boring and monotony, so in an imaginary world where he expresses bold political views, criticizes the appearance of celebrities or finds virtual friends, such a person finds sincere interest. Coming home, postpone the phone to the side: you are close to you, with you while you give a little time.
"How can you?"
If you want to live happily, replace this question on "how can I?" Only you are responsible for your happiness, and not your husband, children, dog or neighbor from the apartment opposite. From childhood, the position of the victim often "kidding" in an adult man. Learn to think on your own and avoid uncomfortable situations for you, not accusing anyone in response.
"What do you want me to die with hunger?"
Money - taking the topic. Psychologists believe that the pursuit of a huge earnings - evidence of attempts to hide the insecurity of the external gloss: an expensive car, a gorgeous clock or a decent bill in the bank. Any businessman will have time for the family, there would be a desire. A person who learned to earn, never will lose this skill, let him go bankrupt and starts everything from scratch. For this reason, it is not worth the whole life to be afraid of "black day" - observe the balance between the rest and work, without manipulating these close.
spend time with loved ones and not in the phone
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"He, of course, is not a handsome man, but smart"
No, so you do not praise your child, and drove deeply inside it complexes. Unconditional love is the most important thing that you can give wise parents. If you take Chado as it is, without such reservations, then in the future he will become ambitious and self-confident man. The appearance does not mean anything, exactly, as well as mental abilities: all this is changing if desired. Grow a child with an internal rod - this is exactly what other people will appreciate it, and not a pretty face or phenomenal memory.