Have you ever to wait for the new year so that the "white strip" began in life? Or at least a strip of another color except black? Was you that you with genuine seriousness make a desire during the battle of the Kurats?
Do you read horoscopes for the new year and recognize in them that the coming year promises your zodiac sign?
Each of us is one of us in one way or another to imagine that with the onset of the new year, something new in our life will begin. Some kind of qualitative change will happen or the difficult stage will end in life. For some reason, we are doing this for the new year, although it may be logical to do on your birthday. But in the company of everyone around to desire that everything will change by itself for the better somehow more fun, and not ashamed. All about doing the same thing around.
So according to the root tradition, we choose the company, treats, gifts around, women are dressing down (after all, how to meet the New Year, so you will spend it). And they are waiting for a special magic, which will "work" on the eve of the New Year.
Now let's figure out why pragmatic, adults, logical, experienced and even sophisticated people are configured for the new year with a magical and ritual way?
First, each of us Upgrade is needed . The cells of our body are fully updated for 7 years, but the update for the soul is much more likely. We need to sum up the results of the living stage, shook the accumulated stress, fatigue and start with a new sheet. New Year for this perfectly suits. Since no one knows what awaits us in the future, the new year is found by various rituals, "inviting" new to our lives. These rituals are just include the notorious riddles of desires for the battle battle, the housekeeping, as a metaphor of clearing the place from the entire susceptible and unnecessary. For no accident, we try, if possible, return the debts, finish the case, which postponed the whole year. For us, this is a liberation symbol for the new.
Secondly, it works so-called "Magic thinking" - One of the methods of psychological protection and salvation in stressful situations. This is a simple children's way: fantasy that everything will be fixed by itself that someone will protect or help. Magic thinking is distributed and widely in demand. Here is his classic examples: "Once I will meet my second half and forget past love failures," "Someday I get rich ...", "From the first of January I will throw drinking / smoking, just lose weight." When entering into the new year, we resort to magical thinking, because it is especially commonly used in areas and questions that we do not want to decide, or previous solutions were painful for us.
The new year is often a family holiday and a circle of friends. As soon as the entire honest company sits down at the table, abstract wishes of health, success and happiness are heard. As in each case, "happiness" looks like, no one in details are going. Neither the one who wants nor those who want. Why not wish something more specific? As Mikhail Zadornov said, "If the gate is broken in the toilet, why not wish it to fix it?" (Quote, of course, not literal). In children of desire, by the way, Santa Claus performs. But they are able to formulate. They do not ask for some kind of toy, but asking for a specific one. Therefore, their parents, letting the eyes, come on the eve of the Christmas trees in search of cherished gifts.
Adults, much more children believe in a ghostly miracle, which will be fulfilled by itself, it is only possible to wish correctly.
Because if in the new year you tuned to "Dream Sales", I will not resist from several recommendations.
1) Let it be trite and used by all psychological practices, still works. Dream specifically: what happens when. Instead of "I want a salary more", make sure this is specifically: "By March 2016, my salary is twice as much." You do not need to know how it happens, it is important to aim to result.
2) In addition to the planned "necessary" and "must", decide how and what you encourage yourself where you go, how to rest. This recommendation is primarily better to perform avid workaholics.
3) Put the hand on the heart, you can hardly fulfill the desires that you personally do not ignite. For example, even if you have already hint at all acceptable ways, that it is time to quit smoking, but you personally do not want to go, then you will continue to smoke. Even if you are all beautiful and "right" wished.
4) Please note if from year to year the same desires without execution are transfers, it means that you stubbornly sabotize some scope of your life. Even if in the morning to the evening, look for a satellite of life or ways to earn, and WHO and now there, it means that the metaphorically spent, your foot is on the brake. Perhaps it is worth reconsidering your motivation or methods that you tried to cope until now.
5) This is from the repertoire of "Captain Obvious". Well, if you wished, then you will have to do. So proceed to the execution of your desires. From January 1, of course.
Good luck and with the coming!
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin