There are many types of so-called Creative punishment . With such a punishment, children should not be rooted, but to provide them with the possibility of checking their behavior in a situation similar to which an error was allowed. Sometimes it is useful to change roles, let the children become parents for a short time and will set order in the house. You can use small exercises on self-control, keeping from the directly desired, impulsive, thoughtless. The question is not to punish or not, but in how to punish with benefit for children, for parents and for the whole family.
Ban - One of the inevitable forms of upbringing. For example, if you want a child always soap hands before eating, you need to create a so-called leading ban. Often you can hear from the parents to the phrase: "And now we will dine, but first you need to wash the handles, and if the knobs are dirty, it is not good, because you can get sick ..." But there is a mistake here. Mom shows the child that hands can not be washed, and the baby wants to know in reality, what will happen if he does not wash them. In such situations, it is more correct to behave in such a way that there is only one-sole behavior: it is impossible to eat if the hands are not washed. An advanced prohibition should be verbally concrete and accurate.
Professor Alla Spivakovskaya
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Another punishment is Dosage "deprivation of love" . When the natural needs of the child are performed, how to feed, go to bed, etc., but at the same time pays less attention. However, in no case cannot be "override." "Delegation of love" is a potent tool, it is necessary to use it with caution and not apply to small children. At sensitive and strongly attached baby, even the words "you are upsetting me" can cause deep experiences.
Justice punishment should not be in doubt. For example, if the child received a "deuce", parents need to make it perform additional tasks, explain the material. Strengthening control will definitely not cause a child from a resentment and protest. But the justice of ban on walks or hiking in the cinema is not obvious at all. Similar punishment not only does not help the child to cope with difficulties, but, on the contrary, creates new ones.
Option Exercises for the Development of Self Control of Parents
This exercise will allow parents to learn to think before making a pitch step, punishing their children. When you want to make a child's remark, to slap it, put it in the corner, stop, tell me: "What I will do now should express my love for my son or daughter." Ask yourself what feelings will experience your baby. I am confident that after this question you will not want to resort to such stereotypical actions. Perhaps you will make an effort and instead of a slap, hug your child, instead of a boring remark you praise it. You will come to mind how to support it and get the same result. And instead of putting into the angle, tell me that you are sure that a similar one will never happen again, and give him any memorable thing.