But sometimes our past or past the second half is an integral part of life, present and future - the fact that it is impossible to cancel, you can not refuse.
Speech about children. Of course, children are happiness, flowers of life, but only for their parents, grandparents. Point. The list does not continue. Children are a continuation of the genus and an important component of a strong family. Families in which mother and father live together and happily.
When, in the relationship of the parents, there is a disorder and want to live more apart, what together, as it is not sad to realize, but in such a situation, when the family ceases to be family, because someone and parents want to divorce and part, children become burned . Because the parting process is hampered - because small, because it will cause them a serious psychological trauma, will worry, because for normal development and psychological comfort, both parents are needed nearby and desirable living soul in the soul, in harmony, in love. After all, the child will not deceive.
External well-being will not hide the cracks and the leaning atmosphere. The child will surely feel that something is wrong. Well, in general, sooner or later, parents will break up. It will be facilitated, but this is not enough. In some situations, the former spouses dream never see each other, but the child or children remain a serious binder, so one way or another, conscious parents who do not care, will have to see and communicate, and children - feel the load of voltage and irritation - A rare adult in a similar situation, especially when he (she) was (was) the initiator of the divorce - will behave in an adult, for the benefit of the child to maintain neutrality, without setting up a child against another parent. Usually insult and unrequited love, unjustified hopes are demonstrated by the most bright way, and the child necessarily listens to all the most impartial feedback on their dad or about their mom.
Of course, children have their own opinion, love or dislike despite all that he is told, but, as everyone knows, water and stone sharpens. So, insults and loud exposures of one parents to others in the presence of a child, his nerves are dried, undermine the stability of the psyche and cause a greater mental injury, from which even the biggest love begins to hear. And the two closest, the most expensive for a child man become his enemies. One - because it is selfishly thrilling a child's nerves, the second, because he wanted to become happier, leaving anywhere, or to another family.
Who is right, who is to blame and what to do? Neight and in the future will be guilty to the child that parent who is trying to set up a child against his father or mother. Adults should understand that, unfortunately, love sometimes passes and if the second half wants to leave, he has full right. In this situation, his (her) needs to be released, forgive and start a new life, perhaps try to fall in love again. Joint children are not to blame. They have the right to communicate with both parents and well, if the parent who left sincerely wants to communicate with his children, to participate in education, help financially.
Much worse if the spouse or spouse, leaving the family, throws and children. Yes, sometimes those who threw it hard to see and communicate with ex-for the resentment or feelings that did not pass. So what? You are adults - you will handle. And if I'm sorry and you will realize why everything happened, then fate will surely give you the opportunity to again love and gain happiness.
And it's stupid to think that you don't need anyone with children in your arms. Yes, nor can everyone be able to take such responsibility - only a strong and noble person, but, after all, you just need it, since more for you to sore your former (your former), let go of it (her), let me help in the upbringing Children and get ready for a meeting with a person with whom to build a new relationship and create a new family.