Unfortunately, no one can give guarantees that even the happiest family will be able to preserve the relationship for a long time. Despite the presence of children, the couple can make a decision to go their way. At some point, it comes to acquaint the child with his new second half, most often it makes moms, since in most cases after a divorce, the child remains with his mother and good relationships with its new choice are the key to harmonious coexistence under one roof. So how to make the first meeting less injured for the child and gently prepare it for the fact that mom is now not alone? We dealt with this issue.
Not every man worth dating a child
It is not always easy to find my person, sometimes you have to "go" through several options, until you finally tell me: '"Here he!" As soon as you understand it, it's time to acquaint your loved one. The worst thing you can do is to acquaint a child with every man: children get used to people very quickly, and therefore your regular man will stop coming home, the child will be in bewilderment where he could have gone, because they were so good . It is not necessary to treat the kid's feelings so frightly and arrange a meeting only when you are sure that you are going to build a long-term relationship with this man.
Let your favorite unite in the team
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Warn the child in advance
Believe me, your child will be confused by the sudden appearance of a man in the house, and therefore try at least a few days to warn the child that you will have guests. Do not say that you will come to you "new dad", no, tell me that this is an important person for you. Also, you should not prevent the child in advance that he does not hooligan and led himself decently - you are not looking at it, and familiarize the two most important people for you. When you live all together, the child will be difficult to always behave decently, you should be ready for this and better if he sees it in advance what the situation awaits him and soberly will appreciate his strength.
Do not bring a man home right away
For the first meeting, it is best to choose a cozy cafe or go to everyone together for an event, providing for various activity so that your child and man can come into contact. An excellent choice will be a master class or any mobile games where your beloved will have to be united in the team. Before the campaign, ask in advance, where your child will prefer to go and do a man with his choice agree with his choice.
Children read your mood perfectly
Of course, in such a situation as the first acquaintance you yourself will be incredibly worried, however, remember that the child at any age knows your reaction and takes your anxiousness to herself. Due to age, it will be difficult for him to understand what caused such an excitement, but most likely will contact him with the advent of a new person on this day. You do not need your baby to associate your man with something negative? Therefore, try to keep yourself in your hands and do not let the will with stormy emotions, then everything will pass just wonderful.