The search for safe and reliable refuge in all senses will always be an integral part of life for us: whether it is a physical house, like-minded people and friends, their own man nearby. We will always strive to find a place in life, the most devoid of threats. Another Abraham Masu said that while the need for safety would not be satisfied, a person is not able to engage in anything else, he is not interested in spiritual growth and search, building a love relationship, the implementation of himself in the profession.
Modern matrimonial therapy is built on the fact that close relationship is a safe and quiet harbor for us. It is its peacefulness and security in it that helps us firmly stand on the legs in life and implement their vital tasks.
And here the dream of our heroine reflects her searching for safe refuge in life: "I got on the bus, on the street night, go home. My older sister is still on the bus. And the bus folds from the route and rides another expensive, past at home. I am outraged, but I have been told that now such a route. At the next stop, the bus stops, a crowd of people, on the street sun. I do not understand anything. Why there was a night, and here is the day. I explain that the sun here has not yet managed to go. I understand that my house is not far from this stop, but it's scary to go on the dark. I'm going to go spend the night to my sister. And at the same time I want to go home. The driver suggested to take me home after the end of the route. I agreed and calmed down.
This dream understood like this: I turned in my life in the direction of the world, but here is unusual, all someone else, I feel confused and try to return to the usual state, even in darkness, although it's scary through it again. "
Of course, its own interpretation is important. It reflects the search for light, perhaps a more legal, honest attitude towards himself and his family, sister. And also sleep reflects its ways to cope with the alarm. It makes it familiar ways: trying to return to his metaphorical house, in a reliable space. First, this is a familiar way: go home through the night. Then seek help to my sister (go to sleep to her). Often, in order to cope with the alarm, we choose such a way as the presence of someone near. Surrounding, their peace and calm serve us with support, since it is difficult for us to calm themselves in panic and disturbing moments.
Ultimately, she calms down the fact that it comes to the house by bus, bypassing the passages along the unfamiliar area in the night. In other words, through the dream, our dreams learns to console and soothe yourself, regulate and normalize their fears and anxiety.
This skill could have every one, but he directly depends on how we calmed down in early childhood: whether they took it to hand during crying or left to gut and fall asleep.
Recent studies have shown that until a certain age, kids are not able to calm themselves, since the processes of excitation dominate the braking processes. They need to carefully teach calm down and fall asleep. However, this knowledge is hardly made to modern parents. While the doctrine leads that it is impossible to teach more chest babies to the hands, it is impossible to pamper the "manual period". Unfortunately, the caregivers in this paradigm do not know that children are experiencing terrible stress, they are not able to calm themselves. They have to remain one on one with their fear and horror, dibulate him through childhood diseases and to believe in the fact that there is no one reliable nearby. Later, much later, decades, adult uncle and aunts are not able to cope with their anxiety and panic. Therefore, soothing means are so common.
However, our dream is now learning to do it yourself - about this dream. And successes to her on this path.
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Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin