No matter how you love the child, it is worth aware that you are allowing your baby. Quite often, parents rush in extremes: some fully suppress the will of a little man, others almost make a cult from their son or daughter.
Do not put a child at the head of the family
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How to find a golden middle?
In the upbringing, much depends on the age of the child. Consider the main periods of becoming your baby.
Newborn
From the moment of birth and about six months, the child needs a mother and constant attention from her side, since its survival depends on it. At this age it is impossible to spawn: if the child is crying, so he reports some problems in the body to which adult must respond. Until the moment when the child requires something, without which it can do, there is still far, so do not ignore the crying infant - it needs your intervention.
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1 year
Annual kid begins to actively study the world full of dangers, so the care of the mother at this stage does not need to be regarded as an excessive excitement: with insufficient attention, the child may well grasp the hot kettle or bleed with water with a washing powder. Try not to scold, but to explain to the child why he should not touch the knives and take something from strangers. So you will not select the desire to know the world, but also warning the baby from the potential danger, so the prohibitions in some cases are quite substantiated.
From year to three years
It is here that the turning point comes when the child begins to experience you - trying to understand how far he can go to with his parents. We all see in the stores of unfortunate mothers with children, with crying requiring another toy. As a rule, these are children of three years.
Many parents are difficult to restrain, and they also break off on a cry, but this is the way to nowhere. You must have a calm tone to explain to the child that this time you can not allow a new purchase, after which you insistently lead the child from the adamanced push.
After 3 years
It is much easier to arrange and find a compromise. The child is fully aware of his family role and usually takes it. He understands that parents can not always fulfill his whim, most often children of 4/5 years already loaded with accumulative duties, so the child just once thought, how to "break" mom to buy the next railway.
one year old baby needs your attention
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What rules will help support healthy attitude to the baby and not to fall into extremes when upbringing
- The child is not a center of the world, you are not obliged to fulfill all his desires, because he is just a family member, like your husband or another child. You should not postpone your affairs if the child has to play after you have spent half a day with him in the children's room in the mall.
- All family members take part in the child's education, especially your husband. You do not have to disperse, if you prohibit something or vice versa. Clear, and most importantly - the overall position should be among all family members on this or that matter.
- If you prohibit something, do not give up and do not go on the child - be sequential.
- Praise the child for good actions, rejoice in its successes: in this case, he will have a stimulus to move in this direction.