Zhenya Tanaeva - Sensation of our movie. Not a well-known debutantchka, she became a screenwriter, the main actress and producer of the Hollywood film "To the Eightly Meeting", where the stars of world cinema Harvey Kater and Liam Makintyre starred, as well as our legends - Larisa Maleved and Oleg Taktarov. Talked with Zhenya about her childhood, about children and how she, a fragile girl, was able to raise a huge strength of the Spirit that allowed her to realize it seemingly such a non-inflleary dream.
- How and where did you grow up? What do you think formed you as a person? What had the greatest impact?
- I was born and grew up in St. Petersburg, in Kalininsky district, in Khrushchev, on the last floor of the five-story building without elevator. We lived with a guy: Mom, Dad, Grandma, Grandfather, my older sister and me. Parents worked as engineers, and since they were all the time at work, basically, I spent time with my grandparents. My grandmother is an amazing woman. She survived the whole blockade, the only one of his family survived and at the same time kept the beauty of the soul. Creating a heroine grandmother's image in the film, I found inspiration in my memoirs. Grandfather also gave me a lot of love. During the war, he served on the fleet and told many stories about the war, about friendship.
And what formed me as a person ... Probably the values embedded in me by my family. Let's say an example of the relationship of grandparents, their lives, their persistence, their love for loved ones, as they cared about their family, about me. An example of my parents who met and got married when they were students, gave birth to my older sister and me, and then slowly built her life, caring about us and about each other. When we grow, we are very influenced by what we are missing - how we learn to overcome difficulties without losing themselves and keeping true values. I am very grateful to my family for the fact that they were in me in line from the earliest age.
Zhenya Tanaeva became a screenwriter, the main actress and producer of the Hollywood film
- What was the impetus for moving to America? How did you decide on it?
- When we are in a state of divorce, as it was in my case, it means making a decision to finish one chapter of life and start a new one. And this new chapter wants to start globally, and not just formally - they say, now I will do something differently. After all, it really gives us a chance in root to change your life, stop, ask yourself: "What I dream about? What do I want? What do I want for my children? What lacked me from what I can give to my children? " And try to honestly answer these questions. I realized that I could give my children the opportunities that I had never had. Learn in America, get another passport, which will allow them to freely move around the world without any visas, and will also give the opportunity to continue education in fact in any country of the world. And I - the opportunity to realize your dream: to shoot a movie in Hollywood.
- How are close to those who took your departure? Didn't offered to return?
- Related perceived my departure to another country wary. Of course, for parents it was something unknown! After all, America is behind the ocean, and in St. Petersburg we lived across the road from each other. They were not easy to get along with the thought that we would now live through the road, but through the ocean. At the same time, I am grateful to my mother with dad for the fact that they were ready to support me and help, as far as they can ... Of course, there was a lot of skepticism: not everyone turned out to be easy to believe in the reality of my goal, in the feasibility of such a dream. Dad is very worried. Mom, probably, was more experienced inside, but I tried to cheer me up.
- How many criticism from others?
- When we are trying to do something new and grandiose - what will change life - criticism is inevitable. Criticism will always be - from people who would like to do the same thing, but internally could not allow themselves to afford ... But I never worried about the criticism of strangers. I love the expression of Coco Chanel: "I don't care what you think about me, because I don't think about you at all." Close people, maybe worried, but supported and understood. If, on their part, something like a criticism sounded, I understood that in fact it was, maybe, not quite successful, but still attempts to take care of me. To encourage me to think about some important things that I always perceive with gratitude.
Zhenya Tanaev was born in St. Petersburg
- Was it morning when everything seemed vain and unattainable?
- I had a lot of such in the morning, and evenings, too, even the whole day. When attempted by me did not work, when it seemed to me that I had to exhaust my resources, when all the points of my plan conquer Hollywood already seemed to be worked out, but there was no result ... when everyone was thinking that I would definitely do not exactly do what I want. And then the energy was simply ended, their hands went down ... Sometimes I thought you would need to bring losses, to accept the defeat, close this page and do something else. Leave this uncomfortable dream, stopped feeding its energy and move on ... It was upset to tears, it was very offensive and hard. Then I went to bed, and in the morning I woke up with some new idea - and again undertaken new and new attempts.
- Where in a beautiful, fragile girl is such a power of the Spirit?
- I think that such qualities as the power of the Spirit and the ability to overcome difficulties are formed in childhood. On the one hand, it is cool to have carefree childhood, catching butterflies and not to know any problems, be surrounded by love and care. On the other hand, it is difficult to form each of us as a person, make it look for ways to overcome, learn something new, develop, go ahead! From six years old I was engaged in rhythmic gymnastics, so I never had time for friends, I never had friends. Every day I was at school, and after it six days a week - four hour training. There were two workouts on weekends. When he returned home, there was no strength, but it remained a little time to make lessons and eat a little, because there was no matter how much it was impossible. The then weighed 25 kilograms, and the coach said to me that I was very fat, you need to lose weight ... I went to bed, and in the morning - again the school, then again the gymnastics ... I have a summer holidays, as a rule, we took two scenarios. The first is a grandmother in the village of Culking, where she had goats, chickens and other joy of rustic life. The second version of the summer is a sports camp. Everything was pretty hard: sport, upbringing in the Soviet version ... Now, after time, I am very grateful to what this regime gave me, rhythmic gymnastics and coaches. I hardered it very much - I taught to gather, to be strong and pass any difficulties, taught self-discipline. Little can do it so much in childhood, but at the same time do not break and give such a focus that will remain then for life. I can say that I am also grateful to sports for a good physical form.
- There is an opinion that working on a psychologist is a weakness and discharged money. Do you have such an experience?
- I, of course, heard this opinion many times - and, honestly, for many years she adhered himself. But about three years ago by chance met with a wonderful woman-psychologist and was amazed as far as it could be exciting - a journey into myself. To really get to know with me, meet with your fears ... deal with your qualities that we regard as negative. And, of course, it is good to learn your positive qualities, praise yourself for it, to understand how cool that I am such a person. When we learn their fears, they lose their strength on us, and we become a conscious owner in our head, and therefore - in their lives. So hike to a psychologist is not always weakness. The problem is that there are few good psychologists, and it is not easy to find a suitable professional.
"All powerful breakthroughs in my life took place when I had already had two girls"
- Self-development for you is just a fashionable term and a beautiful word from books or lifestyle?
- Self-development is the only possible way to success. Otherwise - degradation. We are all born in order to develop. In order to work on some kind of qualities to change to improve. All life circumstances, situations and tests are given to us so that we work out certain qualities. Going out of some situations, we become wiser. Leaving others, we become stronger. From third - becoming alert. From the fourth - we can experience to truly and understand what love is. And all life, in general, is worn out of such situations and tests, some overcoming, which reveal to us new faces of themselves. It seems to me that it is very cool - learn to enjoy your consciousness at such a level to make the right elections and be more effective in your life.
- Today, many women seeking to self-realization do not want to give birth, believe that children are a hindrance to achieve achievements. Do you agree with this statement?
- On the one hand, I can understand why many women think so. On the other hand, I can not agree with this, because my life, my accomplishments and achievements began after I gave birth to my two daughters. All powerful breakthroughs in my life took place when I had two of my girls. I am infinitely grateful to them for the fact that they came to my life, for what they gave me, not knowing, and the power, and motivation, and the love that gives us huge forces for achievements and accomplishments. And even if it is more difficult when there is a child. And I was so, and I was very hard many times, and there was not enough money. And I thought how to make and take care of them, and at the same time all had time to do ... but it's worth it! After all, when a woman gives birth to a child, she opens some additional energy resource, and at that moment she learns that such unconditional love. And for a woman, this condition is very resource.
- How do you cope with the transition age of children?
- I really helps me to remember myself at this age. Remember how then looked at the world, it was not understood about the parents that they did not understand anything in this life ... remember how I treated to friends and what I wanted. Sometimes I listen to my daughters and first I think that they carry it, but then I remember yourself - and it helps: "A, I remember! Here it is what's the matter. " I just put into my place the then myself - and I begin to talk with them, to behave with them just as if it was just their girlfriend at that moment. But at the same time already a girlfriend with experience, with some wisdom, which I can share with them ... Yes, we have with them and not such a big age difference; When they grew, I also grew up with them, developed and cleaned ... In short, at the moments when it seems to be hard with children, you just need to remember yourself at this age.
"The universe is very wise, it is perfect. You have come to mind your dream only for one reason: you can achieve this "
- How to work, to give a family time, follow your health and look like? Share a secret.
- There are several secrets here. First secret: Love yourself! When we love ourselves, we care about yourself. We will try to get enough sleep, eat right, and, whatever it is, to give for some time beauty and care. If we love ourselves, we will always take care of your loved ones, that is, about your family - in my case, about daughters. If we love ourselves, never throw our dreams, our goals.
- Is there any universal way to decide to change your life and move to a dream?
- I do not know if the word "universal" will be correct ... I can only share my experience and tell that it works specifically for me. I deeply believe that, as Walt Disney said: "If you dream about it, you can achieve this." The universe is very wise, it is perfect. You caught your dream only for one reason: you can reach it. We still live life. Time will still pass - only we can spend it effectively, trying to realize our dream, and we can surrender, say that it is impossible, and do not move on this path. But regardless of whether your dream will come true or not, when we move forward, there will always be some events, we will always meet new interesting people, new ideas will always arise. Perhaps you will even realize that this dream is not the limit, and you have new, even more interesting, even closer to you ... This is an extremely exciting process. And I am deeply convinced that it is better to do and sorry than not to do and regret. The most bitter regrets are about what we did not, about trying that we did not undertake, about the chances that we missed. So do not betray your dream. After all, while we are alive, everything is in our hands!