Of course, self-development always helps to achieve the results to which you are striving, and no matter what area you develop so hard. However, the race for success sometimes can have an extremely negative impact on our psyche - for some people to spend the whole hour, looking through the video flashing simply because he likes, but does not make any benefit for a career and does not affect your personal development - just unacceptably And equally meaningless to burning time. A man literally forbids himself to want something. We decided to find out why we sometimes strive to develop, but it is better not to become.
Everyone speaks about it
We live in the world of permanent competition, especially this approach is familiar to people living in large cities. We constantly remind us that even an extra hour that we spend in bed for your pleasure, can almost discard us back on the karrunovnik, "while you sleep, others become more successful" - you probably heard this phrase more than once. Stop and think, the desire for success is your desire or you just do not want to get disapproval from friends and colleagues?
Success is important to you or your surroundings?
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We want to become better in all
And there is a danger of losing sight of that facet, which separates healthy perfectionism from a painful desire to become better. According to psychologists estimates, approximately half of their customers working in large companies, a few years after receiving position, they are experiencing a sharp crisis - all the case in unrealized desires, which are sometimes simply impossible, but business coaches and advertising insist on the opposite, which leads to emotional burnout A person who works outlines, but does not receive any result, except for negative consequences on his psyche.
We need to know what we like
Living in society, it is difficult to ignore his wishes. Each of us is aware of it or not, on a subconscious level seeks to get the approval of people who are authority for him in certain areas. And as we know, only the currency can like everyone. If you do not stop striving to obtain permanent approval, after a couple of years of such a tense state, you will fall into the patient's chair in the office of the psychologist.
We strive to seem successful and do not want to wait
Very often, our own ideas about themselves do not coincide with reality, and this can lead to a serious disharmony. When we do not receive the reaction that we expect to do anything, the desire to do something next can abdicted for a very long time, it is this problem that often becomes the main one, when a person seeks to achieve success in his plan, but the result in life disappoints. A person stops and ceases to act, as if he was not close to success. You should not wait for people to immediately appreciate your efforts - show more tolerance and you will see the result.