The fateful meeting of the singer and captain of the "Zenit" football team occurred thanks to St. Petersburg newspaper. Both of them were invited to an interview in the heading "Star with Star says." Passion flashed instantly. At that time, Tatiana was "firmly married" for producer Nikolai Tagryin, brought up Sasha's son. Vlad was also incomprehensible, but it was useless to resist a strong feeling. They accepted a difficult decision to break their families to create a new one. There was a romantic offer of hand and hearts on the Eiffel Tower, a floating restaurant on the Neva, fireworks and famous guests. Tatiana even specially consulted with an astrologer to choose the right wedding day - October 18, 2005. After a year and a half the son was born in Nikita. Alas, this did not make their strengths that resemble a powder barrel, ready to explode every minute. There were scandals, jealousy, reproaches, several times they tried to put the point, but ... "They are so different, but still they together" - this is just about Bulanov and Radimov. When we recorded this interview, the singer admitted that they and her husband really do not live together and seem to be a matter of divorce. But everything changed for some two weeks. Literally on the eve of the outlet of the room, we called joyful Tatyana and reported that they with Vlad with once again decided to try everything first.
Tatiana, why are you so sad sing about love?
Tatyana Bulanova: "I don't know ... Maybe this is due to the peculiarities of the timbre of my voice? It happens that on demos of the same songs are performed by other girls - and no don is not. Only I start to sing - something tummy-sad appears. I myself understand it perfectly. "
Or maybe this is because love is often accompanied by fear of losses, pain?
Tatyana: "I don't want to see someone with pessimist, but it seems to me that a long person can not be happy. So we are arranged. Happiness is fleeting, ephemery ... and let these moments in our life be as much as possible, but it is still some moments. Only people favorites are permanently feeling happy, and such a few. So my condition of sadness is probably at the subconscious level. "
Are you melancholic?
Tatyana: "On a horoscope I am fish, and they should be taking it on a little bit of each sign of the zodiac. So there is a lot of things in me, including I combine the character traits of people with different temperament type. I can be very energetic, cheerful, but I can also sink. It depends on what company I am and what are my life circumstances at that time. It happens that I have some trouble in life, but I still hold on people, I smile, I do not cry incessantly. Maybe only alone to remain hard with it. "
Remember your first love?
Tatiana: "I just turned thirteen, I fell in love with a neighbor in the country. He was older for a year. It was a rather strong feeling, noticeable not only to me. In our company, someone looked at the joke on this topic. But I did not take risen to take the first step, admit to that guy, what I like it. We did not meet. Although I certainly wanted this story to get a continuation. I represented how we could walk, holding hands, or watch the cinema together. In general, I dreamed and suffered. "
You are not from those women who conquers men?
Tatyana: "No, I think it is humiliating. Conquering - exclusively men's prerogative. When a woman fights for a man, it is some kind of perversion psychological. I generally do not understand the expression "fight for love." If one person loves, and the other - no, what can I do? No one can bind forcibly. Well, if love is mutual. And if not, then this is a huge tragedy, drama, but it must be survived. "
When is love goes, it is better to part?
Tatiana: "It is a feeling that is transformed. The first flash is a passion when he blows the roof, - only for some time. But when people begin to live together, all madness passes. And it is completely normal from a psychological point of view. If love was, she remains, only in a different way expressed. May manifest itself in respect and care, and maybe differently. The most terrible one, when one person, feeling his power over the other, begins to suppress him, humiliate. At the same time he loves him. So also happens. But when you understand that you no longer want to see a partner, your communication will be done, you need to leave. Even the sake of children should not be preserved a family. They will feel an unhealthy atmosphere. "
"We and Vlad and Vlado are very different. We do not coincide in emotions, humor, musical tastes. Even movies look different! And I do not like football matches. " Photo: Lilia Sharlovskaya.
Some time ago you talked about the difficulties in the family, even thought about the divorce ...
Tatyana: "Everything happens in life. We really decided to dispersed for a while. Thought so it will be better for both of us. Parting is always sad. It doesn't matter if love remained or only memories of her. When something fails, insults arise, claims are unpleasant and morally hard. At that moment you act on emotions. And then, having agreed separately, my Vlad and I understood that without a friend could not. "
How did you manage to make yourself?
Tatyana: "We have a very emotional relationship with my husband. (Laughs.) Like the pendulum, then everything is just fine, it rolls into some kind of abyss. At such moments, everything is perceived very tragic. But even when we quarrel, the warm feeling and respect for each other remains in the soul. At this time, our reconciliation also happened spontaneously: phoned, talked - and again together. Probably in the soul, we both wanted to miss. "
Of course, you tie a lot. Still lived seven years.
Tatiana: "Yes ... I and the first marriage was long - thirteen years. There, we can say, twenty-four hours a day lived side by side. I do not want to praise yourself, but the fact that we have extended so long, my merit. Honestly, the first that the second husband has a difficult character. So mostly my tolerance and movement keep the relationship. "
About marriage with Nikolai Tagrin, you, confess, told strange things. For example, even if you took your husband's money, always returned debt. You did not feel near a strong shoulder?
Tatyana: "After the first months of romance, our marriage with Kolya turned into an partner union. My husband cared about me smoothly as much as it was necessary so that I could perform. I did not feel his care and caress to the extent I would like. Perhaps partly this was the reason for which I went to the Radimov. I think the problem is in me. Strong woman is a tragedy. When a man feels female fragility, weakness, he begins to protect his beloved, surround the attention. And if a woman herself can cope with all the difficulties, he relaxes. I, like Bulgakov, never anyone will ask anything. I cope with problems alone, and my man thinks that it is necessary. Although I feel in the soul, so that I was guided by, they gave advice, but for this, probably, I must trust a person. And I trust myself with a greater extent. "
"At home I can afford to walk in a bathrobe, without makeup. Well, I would like to see me with a parade. " Photo: Lilia Sharlovskaya.
At that moment, when Vladislava began problems at work, it was you who provided him with moral support, tried to forget about all the existing friction and disagreements. After that, did you become closer?
Tatiana: "Yes, of course. Although I was a little surprised by his reaction. I then gave an interview in which he told that he decided to support her husband, not to tear our relationship, because Vlada had the difficulty with work. He stated: they say, it looked as if I regret it. In fact, everything was completely different. I was just very worried about him as a person close to me. At that moment I realized that he would never betray him in his life and stand on his defense. And he regarded it differently. Maybe I'm not positioning? I look at my girlfriends: they deftly know how to pretend to be white and fluffy kitty. I think it is stupid, I can not, although for some reason the men are underway. But I'm not able to pretend all the time. I want to relax at home. My profession is related to the scene, with the creation of images - there is an element of acting in it. Before the public, I have to keep my face. It doesn't matter that at this time in my life happens. There was one day the situation ... Sixteen years ago I flew to tour for three weeks, knowing that my dad was seriously sick. Doctors said that he lives to live dayd days. But I flew up with concerts, knowing that dad at death. And all these tours worked. No one from my surroundings to say to anyone: "Tanya, we turn everything, come back." I returned, ran to the hospital, I managed to say goodbye to my father, and after half an hour he died. "
Terribly ...
Tatiana: "In this, too, probably, the strength of my character was manifested. No matter how hard it is in that situation, I fulfilled my professional duties. When he felt that tears approach, ran out for the scenes. "
You did not think later, what would it be more correct to cancel concerts, spend the last days next to your native man?
Tatyana: "Probably, if Dad died to my return and I didn't find him alive, I would be Coril. And so - we managed to say goodbye. Conscience my clean. "
Some of the great said that the fee for talent is loneliness. Do you agree with that?
Tatiana: "Maybe. I started talking about how a media person has to keep himself all the time. Sometimes, communication with journalists is not enjoyable, but I will never allow myself to smell a person, to spill, whatever emotions at that moment I am overwhelmed. And returning home, also to depict a kitty - to be honest, there is no longer forces. I want to come and fall on the sofa, watch a movie, read some book - for the mood. At home I can afford to go in a bathrobe, without makeup. Well, and my husband probably would be nice to see me at full parade. Perhaps he lacks my attention. Then, we are very different. We do not coincide in emotions, humor, musical tastes. Even movies look different! Vlad loves to keep everything in her place, I'm closer to creative mess. Probably, the marriage is happy, we must think and live on the same wave. Still, people with different ... I do not want to speak "level of development" - a different worldview is hard to understand each other. For example, I adore Opera and I do not like ballet. When I look at the dancers, I can not relax. Introducing how hard it was difficult for them to see, I see the legged legs ... and I can not enjoy the spectacle. Probably for the same reason I do not like the sport. Never loved football matches. "
There is an opinion that opposites are attracted.
Tatyana: "I do not believe that the nursing of tastes and characters can create a solid base for the relationship. Probably the opposites are attracted, but how do they live later? People are still more complicated than magnets. (Laughs.) And every person is a microcosm, each has positive and negative charges. The most important thing is, of course, a bunch between people, independent of character, temperament and zodiac sign. But after all, when interests coincide, more likely that you will live together for a long time. "
The similarities of tastes and interests are rather a solid foundation for friendship.
Tatyana: "Here I do not believe in friendship between a man and a woman. There is always a sexy poverty - the law of nature is valid. And if people experience mutual attraction, it means, sooner or later, friendship will turn into something more. "
Have you had no friends male?
Tatyana: "No. I have a lot of familiar men. We mainly support relationships. For example, I have a photographer friend. But I can't say that we are friends. I can't call him and say: "Well, how do you live, tell me." We call up if it is connected with some photo shoot, the release of a new album. At the same time, we can sometimes go somewhere to have dinner. I have another good familiar - famous composer. It is interesting to discuss different topics with him, but I will never see him in a vest and ask the councils about my personal life. There is, in my opinion, a distance between a man and a woman who does not allow to reveal to such an extent, how to do it, for example, with a close friend. I and my girlfriends are a bit, I am a rather closed person. "
Vlad jealous of you to other men?
Tatiana: "It seems to me that he is really a jealous man, although she tries to hide it. I can say that I did not give any reasons for jealousy and I did not have other men. "
Are you jealous?
Tatiana: "No, absolutely! I confess, it is even sometimes scared. "
What lessons did you remove from the current situation? What will try to avoid in the future?
Tatyana: "I didn't do anything anyone ... perhaps you need to somehow learn to act not on emotions, but with a cold head. I am always very sincere and can't pretend. If something happens (another sympathy, love), I can not hide it. So happened in my first marriage. Nikolai was ready to forgive me. I asked me to, what is called, moved and returned. He really loved me very much. But it seemed to me by betrayal, disrespect for him. Once loved the other - you need to leave. I consider it right when a man loves more in a pair. Then he has an incentive to work on himself, to like his chosen. And he looks in the eyes of a woman stronger. "
But didn't Vladislav showed attention towards you? After all, there were beautiful gestures - a proposal of hands and hearts on the Eiffel Tower, fireworks in honor of your birthday, kisses with full stadium ...
Tatyana: "Yes, it was all ... and I hope there will be more. But life is not only a holiday. The main thing is to find the strength to overcome some difficult moments in a relationship, not speak unnecessary sneaking. Probably, I myself need to be a little cunning. In some situations, behave diplomatic, softer. "
With producer Nikolai Tagrin singer met on the set of clip. They lived together thirteen. Photo: Lilia Sharlovskaya.
In the West, when problems arise between spouses, they turn to a psychotherapist. And sometimes experts help to overcome the crisis.
Tatyana:
"I have a familiar married couple, their marriage saved a psychologist. But I am not something that I do not trust psychotherapists - I love to know what they can tell me. I am very interested in this science, I read a lot of books. And I know myself, all my problems, I understand, what I need to work. Just not always enough for this forces. "Or maybe in the soul you just do not want it? Are you comfortable to live as you live?
Tatiana: "In fact, I am a very conservative person, I scare me. No wonder the ancient Chinese said: "God forbid you live in the era of change."
What do you think your truce with Vlad is serious and for a long time?
Tatyana: "I hope. (Laughs.) I want nothing to make anything. I live, I work, I communicate with friends, I spend time with my wonderful sons who love. Sasha and Nikita are very different in nature. The eldest son is calm, immersed in his inner world, introvert. And the youngest is very open, the company, all emotions out. He loves to play football, I am pleased to marched on the podium - advertised clothes. But we were all born under the sign of the fish, so there is some mysterious connection between us, which I feel on the subconscious level. The older was recently twenty, but there is some youthful maximalism. Of course, from my bell tower of life experience, some problems seem obvious, and I try to give him advice. Sometimes he listens to them. I do not really climb into his personal life. He wants - Something will tell himself. But Sasha knows that I will always find my understanding and support. "
Do you find support in his face? Especially now when you are so difficult?
Tatyana: "I don't know ... Probably, here again my stupid trait is manifested. I have difficulty overcoming alone. It is terribly really. Maybe someday will appear in my life such a person who will say: "So, everything is enough. All your problems I take on yourself. "
I wonder what kind of mother-in-law will you?
Tatyana: "Normal, tolerant, I think. The most important thing is that my future daughter-in-law loves my son. And everything else is his choice. Even if this choice suddenly seems to me unsuccessful - he lives with her. Besides, I can and make mistakes. So read morals and give advice that no one asks, I will not become. "
How did Sasha perceived "Time-Out" in your family life?
Tatiana: "He does not concern this at all. When we divorced my first husband, I understood me Sasha. He and Pope would love to communicate with Pad, but he somehow did not show it and still does not show much desire to meet. I hope, over time, their relationship will be applied. As for the current situation with Vladislav, the son will not even really understand what is happening. We did not discuss this topic. "
And the younger?
Tatyana: "With younger, of course, it is difficult. When I descended with my first husband, it was terribly sorry to Sasha. And now I feel sorry for Nikita. But by making a decision, we will be together with Vladislav together, it is necessary to come out of what relationship between us. If you are happy parents, happy and children. "