Recently, the problem with searching work is especially acute, but it becomes even larger scale at the moment when a person is bothering with his position and it becomes even comfortable in such a "suspended" condition. It is especially unpleasant if such a person turns out to be a man whom you considered the "reliable shoulder" and a person who can be rejected. Sometimes no persuasions and scandals are capable of turning the situation. We found out how to do if a man shifts all responsibilities in your relationship, including financial, on women's shoulders.
Soberly appreciate the situation
Not always long searching for work is Lena. In addition, if you see that a man applies all possible efforts to solve the problem, there is simply no reason for the scandal. Do not torfer the events, because to find a really worthy place you have to work out and show patience. A completely different situation is developing in the case when a man always avoid talking about finding work and does nothing in order to approach the goal. In this case, it is also not necessary to roll the scandal - sit for the "negotiating table". An adequate man who values your relationship will surely listen to your requests and reacts to the fact that it will start solving the problem that does not give you both peace.
Do not make all the work for it
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Tell us about your feelings
Yes, if the partner ignores your experiences, anger and even the real hatred for a person who have recently "wore in the hands can be born in the soul. Accusions and caustic comments in such a situation can not be avoided, however, you can only pour out a partner in response. Do not raise accusations, instead, tell me how you are not easy and how you see the way out of the current situation, for example, the search for a partner job.
Do not turn into a "mammy"
The most unpleasant thing you can do is start looking for a job for him. But you only provide a "bear service" with your chosen one, because a man will assume that the job search is important for you, so why he should strain. As you understand, your actions will definitely not give him. In addition, even if you find a suitable place, the partner will, if you can remind you that it was you who found him the work, where "it is not respected / not going to pay / colleagues do not correspond to its level" etc.
Drive support
Of course, we are talking about those cases when a man really tries, but has not yet achieved success in this. For any person, support is important, especially for a desperate man, so why not support him instead of clarifying it in the hundredth time when he will come to work. Be tactical.