From the letter readers Womanhit:
"Hello!
I really need a psychologist. I recently broke up with a young man with whom we met for 5 years. My decision was mine. But it categorically refuses to take this situation. Behaves as if nothing happened. Constantly calls. Meets me after working with flowers, invites you to the movies. It takes me a little. How do I better go? "
Hello!
Thanks for your letter.
In this case, the boundaries of the norm and nonzero are vague. I think that this reaction can be attributed to the conditional norm. The fact is that the human psyche is very thoughtful. When a person faces circumstances that pose a threat to his psychological well-being - grief, strong anxiety, or when his self-esteem and self-esteem is undermined, psychological protection factors are triggered. These are such mechanisms that allow you to mitigate the soreness of the experienced situation. Thus, they help preserve self-esteem and cope with life difficulties. The aforementioned mechanisms are different. The "selection" of a particular type of protection is carried out unconsciously, that is, a person intentionally cannot manage this process.
One of the types of psychological protection, which seems to "use" your young man is denial. This method of protection is that a person simply refuses to take the existence of a difficult situation with which he encountered. The denial helps to accumulate resources to adapt to a serious change in life. And then easier to survive what happened. Such a protective mechanism as negation is useful in the current situation for your young man. Thanks to this protection, it is easier for him to cope with his experiences. After a while it should pass. Of course, it is not necessary to maintain his illusions, but not to do sharp movements. It is important to maintain a distance in relationships with it and follow your interests.