Any male competition, in business or in a personal life, is a direct confrontation of two males. Everything happens similarly as in nature in the animal world. They are fighting. Physically, intellectually, moral, status. It is always a completely straightforward and explicit confrontation.
In women, everything is different, their rivalry - veiled things, a random footboard, injection with a pin or an intrigue field. At the same time, a kind of competition trap is created, and to get out the winner, you must know about them.
Trap number 1 - fastening
A woman falls into the fatal triangle "rival-male rival". A competing man clearly sees his goal and goes to its conquest. But the weak floor is too much to emotions and completely, the head is immersed in this competitive process. At this point, the goal is their chosen one - becomes a secondary, forget about it. And all the thoughts about one thing: teach a rival. Bring to white casting or pinching morally and more, to arrange some kind of readiness: all this is done thought out and secretly.
At the same time, all attention is completely moved from a man to a rival. At this point, the goal of each of them is to crush and destroy the opponent, and not how more winning it looks in front of her beloved. And he stands aside and watches this process, looks like two women award each other with tumakov, they say knuckles, make nasty. And the goal, for which they entered into martial arts, will never be achieved, because both leave it in the opposite direction. They, exposing themselves not in the best light, harm and each other, and themselves.
Yulia Lansk, an expert on the selection of an ideal pair for marriage
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Trap number 2 - depreciation yourself
If a woman comes into such a competition, it sharply reduces its nominal value in the eyes of his chosen one. She seems to be shouting: "Take me, I'm better!". But ordinary market laws do not work in personal relationships. This is at the fair you can walk between the rows and choose what is selling cheaper. Availability attracts a buyer of some kind of commodity product, but in choosing a man woman plays a completely opposite role. Representatives of strong sex love to hunt their prey, overcome barriers, conquer it. They chase a hare, and not looking for it in the finished fried form.
When a woman fights for a man, she shows himself more than affordable. "Sale! Only here! All five rubles! " The hunter's instinct completely goes out, because he does not need a finger with a finger, she will come running on his first whistle or even eye movement. A woman broadcasts that better rivals than the rates reduce, ready to win at any price, any ways. Is it possible in this case to conquer it?
Trap number 3 - election elevation
Competing, women cultivate their emotions. The male figure disproportionately grows in their eyes, becomes more and more important. Feelings flared up, the desire is enhanced, the emotional tension is increasing and stronger and stronger. They are tormented by thoughts, eat experiences. This is no longer just a man who is sympathetic so much that I would like to try to build relationships, but the only goal in life, the most cherished trophy.
And the more it is drawn into this confrontation, the more the significance of your chosen is growing, although it does not do anything personally. As a result, an artificially bloated figure of a man, which far from always corresponds to adequate reality. Market laws are already working here: if demand is high, the offer is growing in price.
Trap number 4 - Fear of losing trophy
In the fight for a man, the love of a woman is artificially growing. She herself cools herself, inspiring what he was wonderful and the best. Along with this, the fear of losing their chosen one is growing, which has become a real treasure. This fear provoke the most real dependence on his personality, a panic can be felt at the thought that she would not achieve him. After all, she has already invested 5 months to conquer and hold this man - the best trophy and the "last of the Mogican".
At the same time, the woman is fully docked on a man, it seems to her that there are many hunters around, and therefore it is necessary to clutch into it. It is intrusive and stuffy. A woman like leeches, again and again depreciates himself in his eyes. For her, he is the only ideal, and she simply sees others in his life. She lost logic and critical thinking. It can be said that he loses himself as an adequate person.
When a woman fights for a man, she shows himself more than affordable
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Trap number 5 - envy to rival
Such a competitive struggle causes envy. Initially, rivalry begins precisely because the woman thinks - even if it is subconsciously, deep in the shower - that the second best of it. More beautiful, more interesting, more active, lucky, and therefore the choice may be in its favor. And these thoughts cause unhealthy interest in the rival and winding themselves.
To lower its value at least in his eyes, and at the same time - and in the eyes of others, the woman begins to displacing a rival, gossip about her, tell others, what is it bad and unworthy. You show your inconsistency, uncertainty in your abilities and potential. And you become like a grill old woman who stayed at a broken trough.
How to avoid competing traps?
1. Overcome all fears before those who are younger and more beautiful than you.
The statement that only young girls with a model appearance are used in demand - false. For a lovely man, his chosen is always the most beautiful woman in the world.
2. Do not give in to provocate your competitors.
Let others humiliate themselves, dropping their value in the eyes of a man. Do not get involved in a stupid struggle, so you will behave adequately and will look more advantageous. "And I add yogurt to salad, not mayonnaise," in such replicas, even if there have been a "pan" of competition in such consignments.
3. Under any circumstances, feel confident and relaxed.
If you have an adequate self-esteem, the image has been established, besides, you have worked out possible moments of behavior, you will never have problems in any situations.
4. To attract your man and become for him that the only one.
Working on himself, comprehensively developing as a person, revealing his femininity and endowing himself the role of his wife, adhering to the right strategy and tactics, you will definitely find your half.
In the struggle for a man, a woman's love is artificially growing
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But how to meet that very, the only man? To do this, you need to make the right steps in the right direction. I'll tell you pro Three basic steps.
Step One: Analysis of yourself "I am today"
At the very initial stage you need to appreciate yourself, what are you at the moment. And start working on yourself, understanding where you have a weak link. What features and skills are insufficient? What items your image is not discharged? What do you need to work so that you reveal in the most advantageous form?
Step Two: Wife Disclosure
You make a plan to improve your improvement and clearly he follow. Without spraying, not distracted, set a number of tasks and perform them. In the process, compare yourself not with a girlfriend or with some imaginary ideal, but only with yourself. See what you were and what steel. Even better ... and a little more better ...
Step Three: Creating Conditions for Choice
You have to do all possible backgrounds in order to choose yourself a man, the best among the best. By changing yourself, you cook a new me to be worthy of a successful status person. You must understand what kind of wife needs such a person how to lead himself with him and how to create a happy strong family.
A real woman is always aware of its uniqueness.
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From the pupa - in the butterfly!
A woman is transformed, changing, builds itself absolutely in all directions. She worked out its external image, leaving from a woman-lover to a woman-wife. Improving his personality, she creates a different inner state, finds love for himself and confidence, ruthlessly discarding the anchors of the past. She reveals its sexuality and emotionality. Begins to properly use the body language. For successful communication with men studies their psychology. And necessarily, entirely, realizes His uniqueness.
Such a woman can not not meet in his way the desired man.
She is a real lady worthy of both recognition in society and the admiration and love of strong sex. It is harmonious, and each detail of her image is inextricably linked both with the outside world, which surrounds it and with its own inner world. All this creates a powerful inner female force, which attracts successful men.
Having all this, you can become a benchmark for femininity and attractiveness, will be surrounded by attention and care, you will find happiness in love and implement yourself as a wife and mom.
I wish you to meet your half, find personal happiness, create a beautiful family. And I will help you with this: Your Julia Lansk, an expert on the selection of an ideal pair for marriage.