Contrary to the problem that the bride before the wedding expects happily, when her beloved would become her legitimate husband, the marriage is a certain crisis, changing roles and positions. Everyone is being prepared for the wedding, and the bride is forced to forget about their alarms, silently silent some of their fears. And this does not mean that she is unhappy. Just not so much place in the pre-wedding bustle to talk about doubts, fears and anxiety.
Therefore, all this fell on the young woman in a dream, to somehow cope with the experiences, somehow find an expression on them.
So, the dream of one of our readers, which will soon marry:
"I stand in a grandmother's old apartment, with me some people. One of them reported that my groom had love, but now it is no longer alive, then they reported that he communicated with a man secretly, and this man was killed ... I was all very unpleasant, I was in confusion, after which I followed Truck scraps. In the first I wanted to kill with a knife, threw a knife, but he barely poured me, and I ran away. Next, fragment about an elderly couple. The woman returned from prison or some kind of place, met with her husband, and they were good together, happily, and here this woman is killed at night. Gloomy ... The whole dream was the dark gray, twilight. And then the elderly man also kill the street on the street, and his wife remains. "
So, consider Mesanezz. Our heroine is located in the apartment of his grandmother. Next follows a series of deaths of one of the elderly spouses. From this gloomily, I can assume that even doomed. As if in a dream, she jumps all the decades that she was coming to live, and becomes a "grandmother", one in her apartment remains, it discovers that her partner loved someone except her.
If you briefly retell a dream - it says that one of the spouses will not be soon or later that love, no matter how strong it will end. And the relationship is finite.
When young people simply meet, they do not indulge in these thoughts. But marriage is quite another. Even if you don't think about it, we know somewhere in the soul that next to this person needs to meet old age, and then death.
The theme of dying and farewell is one of the most heavier. The most famous writer and psychotherapist Irwin Yal says that the most powerful fear in our soul is the fear of death. It is present less in youth, and with age becomes more tangible. It can not be defeated and ignore. With it there are all people without exception. You need to learn how to live with him, recognizing the fact that it will never be our loved ones and most loved ones, with whom we identify ourselves and our lives.
Our heroine is facing such a project of his life as a family. And this is for life, including her ending.
It is possible that with the help of such a dream, it copes with their alarms and concerns that are inevitable in long-term relationships.
You can recommend our heroine wisely and carefully applies to your dreams now - they help her to worry about what is connected with the shadow, the unrelated topics of her marriage, including even the fact that her future husband loved someone except her. And it is no longer corrected.
And what kind of difficult questions raise and treat your dreams? Send your questions on the post: [email protected].
Maria Zemskova, psychologist, family therapist and leading trainings of the personal growth of the Trading Center Marika Hazin.