To be a mom is the most difficult job for which physical and psychological forces must be maintained. Very often, young mothers simply "burn out" or break away after a few months after the appearance in the child's house. How to cope with your own emotions that cause the most expensive person? We tried to figure out.
Do not be afraid to regret yourself
Remember how many times have you showed the surveillance to others? Surely this happens often, but are you ready to regret yourself - this is a big question. We ourselves convince themselves that you just have no right to regret yourself, because we are responsible for us. However, the lack of sympathy to itself leads to an even greater increase in tension, and here quite close to the breakdown. Do not forget to take care of yourself - no one else will do it.
Ideal does not exist
When we try to climb out the skin, so that the child gets only the best, even the slightest slip can lead to a breakdown - you tried so much. Undoubtedly, a small child needs you more than anyone, but it does not require that you were the best mother, and it is simply impossible to achieve the ideal. For the most part, we are trying to convince others themselves, the child you need only love and care, and therefore stop trying to jump above the head.
Do not pass on the baby
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Recharge
Caring for the baby strongly pulls out, and therefore mom needs an additional source of energy, because any resource should be recovered. Allow yourself to spend time alone with you: go to shopping, go to the movies, to a concert or just melee with friends. It is impossible to constantly find in voltage in four walls, explain this moment to your relatives and ask for help in caring for the baby so that you can restore strength from time to time.
Perfect hysteria
Most often, we understand that this is about and us will cover unpleasant condition. If you stay with your child alone and understand that the hysteria approaches and you can not do anything with it, beware of ice water or, if there is an opportunity, accept the contrasting souls, the attack will retreat, albeit not for long. Learn to predicate such moments.
Speak whisper
The last thing to be done in a situation where the child is annoying is to start shouting at him or just speak at elevated colors. The child, especially the baby, perfectly recognizes the mood of the mother and as soon as you begin to wind yourself, the child instantly reacts hysteria. A vicious circle that only you can break. As soon as you understand that the voice is trembling and you begin to raise it on the baby, go to the whisper, even if it turns out badly. A completely small child will never understand everything that you want to tell him, but so you at least do not turn your baby and do not provoke it to a cry.