I recently came a few letters about erotic dreams, which I have been waiting for a long time. For almost 4 years of the existence of a column of letters with such content, they did not believe it.
Perhaps because they do not need interpretation, as well as painfully a personal matter!
However, in the examples below there is where to raise.
Sleep the first:
"I dream of my first love. I met him even at school and at the first courses of the institute. We find yourself in an intimate setting, in a dream I worry an orgasm, the most acute happiness from sexual contact. True, against the background of what is happening, the dialogue itself is like to be with my husband. "
Sleep the second (other author):
"I didn't worry such a strong orgasm for several years, and in a dream I happened. I dreamed of my ex-husband, with whom a long time left, but I still have warm feelings for him. I woke up, my current husband is nearby. After awakening, I stayed with a sense of guilt, what enjoyment is experiencing in fantasy, and with a real partner it is much weaker, and not permanent. "
Familiar to you? A man in fantasies is a lover hero, and a real partner is his pale like.
Here I want to celebrate a few moments for these dreams:
one. It is easy to be macho, as the fantasy is on the fantasy, which is responsible for purely personal needs. With a real partner, you need to be able to ask or offer something in a sexy plan. And at the same time keep the proper level of passion so as not to get lost in the negotiations. But sex is the topic of taboos, they don't talk to her, because the married sex sooner or later becomes predictable and bored. The fantasies do not take into account the same framework, therefore everything is in them in the best way.
2. . In any case, for both dreams, these dreams reflect the depth of possible sexual satisfaction. The point is not in the partner, but in their own ability to experience orgasm with all body. For them, it will be a good news, because this enjoyment is available to them in life, not only in dreams.
3. The most interesting question for the heroine of today's column is: what do they make this in their relationship with husbands, the former lovers break into dreams? What do they cool the current relationship? How to destroy passion in bed with husbands?
Of course, it's easy to get up here in the indictment, they say, "he is insensitive," he is not interested in me, "" He is at work all the time, we do not go anywhere, do not say. " Causes of mass. At the same time, sex is the thinnest prism, the most flexible, which reflects the real position of relationships in a pair. In addition to reciprocity, sex also reflects the approach of each of the partners to itself: how much of them loves and appreciates itself, allows themselves to experience pleasure, be initiative, to be bright and manifested and at the same time - sensitive and gentle. Perhaps sexual behavior is the most honest diagnosis of perception of yourself and its partner.
Let us leave our dreams with these questions. Perhaps, it is enough to start a study.
And what dreams of you? Send your dreams and questions by mail [email protected].
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin