From the letter readers Womanhit:
"Hello!
I am in marriage for 10 years. We have good relationships with my husband, we understand everything and try to support each other. We could not have any children for a long time. And now, a long-awaited kid appeared a year ago. My husband and I are happy, rejoice in every look, sigh, every moment of his life. Only here his appearance completely crowded all romance from our life. I spend all the time with your son. The husband comes from work and also immediately runs to him or tries to help me on the housework. As a result, in the evening I exhaust and the strength is missing for each other. About just sit together or go somewhere, I'm silent. We even lack for sex time !!! I was preparing for the fact that the appearance of a child will change our life, but not as much !!! Is it really the appearance of the offspring crossed out all the romance forever? "
Hello!
Calm, only calm! This kind of complaint can be often heard from the newly-made parents. Especially when the child is so long-awaited and beloved. I want to immediately give him the best. There is a bunch of anxiety. How to do everything well? What if I do not have time or no week? I also remember the mistakes of our own parents, who do not want to completely repeat. What is the sex here? Where is the place of romance?
Very often, becoming parents, we completely forget that we are primarily spouses. And this is an unforgivable mistake. Growing, children are never grateful for these sacrifices. They appear their interests, parents depart into the background. Their excessive concern becomes unnecessary. And the parents are formed emptiness. Where to give unrealized energy? Emotions? It turns out that they have already completely forgotten how to be together. After all, all emotional forces were spent on a favorite child ... All this can entail a bunch of problems, both in marital relations and child-parent.
In addition, it is completely no need to deprive himself pleasure from communicating with each other.
Your family has now joined the new phase of relationships, a small child appeared. You have to rebuild the whole life line. And it does not mean that there is no place for romance at all. Just now for this you have to make some effort ...
So you need to take a rule for some time together. At least once a week. Part of the authority can be transferred to grandmothers, if any. Or nan. In any case, forget about each other - this is a crime for which the inevitable punishment will follow.
In addition, happy and calm parents are much more important for the child, and not carefully smooth pants and the virtuoso welded porridge. Emotional well-being of parents is a serious contribution to the future of the child.