Actress Lyanka Gryu is very selective in relation to projects in which participates. That way the audience is remembered. Irene from Sherlock Holmes, D'Artagnian daughter, Canadian skier from the movie "Sports Only Girls." But recently the actress is not so often selected on the screen. It turned out, Lyanka and her husband, director Mikhail Weinberg, were engaged in an important thing: they saved their marriage.
Often, in front of a person, this tough question arises: family or career? A strained schedule, shooting in different cities - feeling some cooling in the relationship, Lyanka and Mikhail panicked. After all, the love and trust that were between them was always very valued. And then it was decided for which not everyone would be drunk. Throwing a job, refusing to participate in prestigious projects, they flew to New York for almost a year to be together and, perhaps, re-open the way to heart each other.
- Lyanka, the last time we met with you two more than a year ago. What interesting in your life happened during this time?
- many changes have happened, but they are rather internal. There are periods when career comes to the fore, work. And the personal life saves. Then you get married, give birth to a child, and priorities are already changing. Two years ago, when we communicated with you, I starred in the TV film "Pregnancy Test", went on the weekend to shoot in Peter, and on weekdays rode the "Ice Age" show. So plunged into all this that I saw my son only in the morning and evenings. Sometimes came, and he already slept. I felt that I was tired of living in such a rhythm, it is necessary to somehow internally recover, and I do not have enough time spent with my son. After all, maternity is a very important stage in the life of a woman. Especially when the child is small, and this connection is very strong between the baby and mom. Then he grows and maybe no longer so much care. You get to him a mentor more, friend. I realized that I do not want to miss this time. After the "Ice period", I was offered to participate in the "dance with the stars", and the idea that I will be torn off from the family for a few more months, I was terrified. I decided to take a pause in work, we discussed it with Misha. Naturally, I continued to consider some suggestions, read scripts. But it coincided that due to the crisis, difficulties began in the film industry, suspended several projects, the yield of which was scheduled for the summer. I had free time, and I realized that I want to devote him to myself - in terms of learning, recreation, accumulation of new impressions, emotions. I needed to figure out where to move on.
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- It may be dangerous…
- Because you will understand what you want completely different? It's true. But, on the other hand, what's wrong with that? If you were able to stop the race and find answers to some important questions for yourself. I dreamed of learn English all my life to watch movies, read books, to communicate freely with people. And how best to implement this venture? Of course, the language must be taught where it is spoken. Therefore, Misha and I decided to take a small vacation and go to New York. My husband was just engaged in mounting the film and could also work outside of Moscow. In general, our family: I, Misha and Maxim, like Robinsons Cruzo, went on a trip and plunged into a completely different reality: someone else's language, the city that you do not know and in which no one knows you. First, I even shy to make an order in a cafe, it seemed to me that I was not so pronounced words. Included TV - I did not understand anything. It was stress, but such, with a positive tint. I understood: to develop further, you need to get out of the comfort zone. I was recommended by a good teacher in English, we began to engage, and it turned out that everything is not so scary. After a while I began to get a buzz from our life. He opened her tongue, people, city. It turned out that New York is much more and much more interesting than it is shown in the movies.
- Personally, I have the first associations - this is the series "Sex in the Big City".
"Imagine, and I was there, on Parry Street, and photographed near the door of the house where Carrie Bradshow allegedly lived. Surprisingly, Oscar Couter arrived at that very day in New York, with whom we rode together in the "Ice Period". And we decided to meet. They sat in a cafe near this home and ... You want to believe, you want no: Sarah Jessica Parker is his own person! Leads son from school. It turns out that she lives in the area. But for me it was just incredible: just talked about Carrie Bradshou - and now she! I also saw Kit Richards, Mil Cunis, someone else from celebrities. People in them calmly, are kindly benevolently, although they show some signs of attention.
- You said that you dreamed of learning English. But in our pragmatic time, even acquiring some skills, people reflect on where they can be applied.
- And I'm going to use it. But first of all, my dividends were to restore their internal balance, to stay with his family and learn something new. Because before that, my life went in a circle: a house, work. And here everything was different. We lived somehow fun and recklessly, in a student. Ourselves, with a child, without nanny, without any obligations, calls for work, completely torn off from the usual lifestyle. I myself prepared dinners. I called my mother, asked how the bake pancakes. (Laughs.) I really liked my English classes. On the wall I hung posters with words, I listened to the audiocoupes in the headphones, I watched movies. Such immersion in the tongue happened, and gradually I realized that the dream begins to be implemented. At some point I caught myself on what I was sitting in a cafe with the Americans' buddies and we are discussing the new film of Jim Jarmushe. We fell on the premiere, and Jim himself came to present his job. Such were new, incredible impressions. The actor is a sponge that should absorb a reality from all sides, in all its manifestations. Just pushing yourself from the comfort zone, you can reveal some internal borders. And this new experience I can embody in my films, in my heroes. I'm not saying that my son now speaks English. At first he communicated on the playground, and then we arranged it to the garden. It turned out that it can be easily done without any bureaucratic red tape. Any child who is located on the territory of New York has the right to study. In the fall in New York, it was very beautiful, we walked a lot on foot. Sometimes they took the car and drove into the depths of the state: there is very rich nature, there are ski resorts, beautiful lakes. Once we even reached the border with Canada and were able to admire the power of Niagara Falls. I dreamed all my life to see this miracle of the world! He made an indelible impression on me. Sometimes I flew to Moscow to some interesting castings, gave an interview, made a photo shoot. My agent organized my meetings so that in a week I had time to make many important things. And then I again returned to New York and plunged into another reality, where without makeup, in a sports suit and sneakers drove with her son in a playground.
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- And did not think about the profession? In New York, stunning acting courses.
- At the end of my so-called experiment, when I became already confidently speaking in English, I met interesting guys actors. They work mainly in the theater on Broadway. We discussed the Stanislavsky system, found out what the Russian and American theaters differ in which schools exist. I became very interesting, I realized that I could learn something important from their theater school, learn some exercises, pass the training. And I found two schools suitable for me: Strasberg School and Stella Adler School. Both are working on the Stanislavsky system, but in different variations, and they have one-year and half-round courses. It is a pity that it happened right before leaving! But now there is such a hook to return to New York and learn, do something useful for the profession. This is the next stage. And now we came to Moscow with the family - "enlightened", with new breathing, purified consciousness. In the summer we will shoot the second season "Pregnancy test". I love my heroine Olga very much, and it seems to me that the film continuation will be no less interesting. My husband also has work, new ideas appeared. Everything is fine.
- Did this New York period changed something in your relationship?
- Yes, colossal. That year was very heavy for us. Misha lived eight months in St. Petersburg, I was mostly in Moscow, and also actually torn off my son. Somehow divorced our family, and this feeling was uncomfortable. In fact, it is strange: when you do not see your loved one or three weeks, and then you meet, and you have to get used to each other, getting up. What is here at home, sleeps next to you ... It turns out that during this time you have already got used to living she, there was some kind of routine of the day. Yes, we have been convened, but it will not replace live communication. We found that there is no such contact, internal interpenetration, as before. It scared us. After all, from the very beginning of our acquaintance with Misha, we immediately felt like a single whole. There is very sensitive mutual understanding between us. I can talk about everything with my husband, any nonsense to discuss. Sometimes I say: "Misha, I can say stupid? I'm already so old, I'm twenty-eight years old. " (Laughs.) And he will hug me, kisses, calm. It can laugh at my fears, wrap everything in a joke, and it removes tension. And he also shares with me his experiences. I let him be sincere, do not keep emotions in myself. In my opinion, trusting relationships and there is the basis on which family life is built. And for us, constant communication is very important. And when he is not, the willy-unilies are studying themselves to cope with their emotions. And sometimes you already think: "Well, why will I ship her husband?" There was a division, which we just did not want at all. We decided that we need to find each other anew, to stay together. We understood that in Moscow it is unlikely to succeed. All the time will distract something: calls, work, meetings, presentations. We wanted to isolate.
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- The option to go to Goa did not come up?
- No, we have enough beach rest for a week. For the journey to be interesting, we need to open new cities. (Smiles.) In addition, to leave the child somewhere in the country, where not everything is smooth with questions of sanitation, I did not want. And there was still my desire to learn English. So it all happened. I am very grateful to Misha for the fact that he supported me and managed to organize everything. Engaged in visas, found an apartment in New York, did everything so that we felt comfortable. Well, I was able to relax and take some kind of position - my wives, mom, was engaged in the house, creating comfort.
- You are six years together. This is a significant period, especially for you. You and Mikhail got acquainted when you were a little in twenty. And now, closer to thirty, the worldview changes and it is important to feel that there is still the same person with whom I want to live life.
- Yes, I think it was just a turning point. If we were left with the same paradigm - a career, work in different cities, then, perhaps, we would not have been able to preserve the relationship. There was such a chance that we parted, and we both were configured. After all, we love each other and we value each other. We could not understand what the reason why there is no such close contact as before. The fact is that we are so busy career, or are these feelings? I wanted to figure it out. You can say this trip gave the second breath of our relationship. Passing together through the adventures, we were able to rally, open each other again and realized that we were a very good team. And everything will work out.
- That is, now you have a recipe, how to preserve the family union.
- Yes, but it is so specific, not all suitable. (Laughs.) Lie the house together to build, give birth to or in a world journey to go, but there must be a point of contact in which you both shoulder to shoulder are moving. Unfortunately, we do not work so often work together on the set, as I would like. We love to work together, there is some kind of union for our fantasies, ideas.
- Why not work?
- There are films where absolutely no roles for me. And it happens, we rush, but the producers do not claim. And the director does not always affect their opinion. It all just thinks that if the husband is a director, the wife will be filmed in all his paintings. In fact, it is not. I do not see that something radically changed in my career after Misha and I got married. Sometimes our paths come into contact. It happens, he has an interesting role, he says: "Marusya, see." (Mauli Mom calls me, and Misha also liked this nickname.) I read the script, I say: "Misha is a good role, but not mine, I will not go.
- I thought you, on the contrary, a zealous feeling appears when he invites other actresses.
- No, what are you! Although I really like the Mischin pictures, I am proud of them. His films are loved by the viewer, they have high ratings, and producers are satisfied with his work. In the same "pregnancy test" I like the role of the main character, but I understand that she is not mine. The role of Olga I am much closer to me. Beautiful series, all in its places. I must say that casting is one of the strong mice parties. If there is an interesting scenario and exactly my role, we will definitely try. I really want to work, I am ready for this and feel that time is correct. Of course, it is impossible to just sit and wait, so there are no worthy sentences, I try to distract something. For example, discovered yoga. I had no time in Moscow, although many girlfriends tried and very praised. And in New York, the studio was located right in the neighboring house, and I went to classes in the morning. I want to continue here.
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- Yoga for you is a way to meditate or maintain a good physical form?
- It's like a way to cope with your alarms. Breathing exercises help remove blocks, stress. I realized that I could not relax at all. Even coming home from work, I continue to read the mail, respond to working calls, to approve interviews, read scripts. I can not switch. And when I began to do yoga, I felt the updated and breathe easier, the tension goes out. Yoga helps me and physically. After heavy loads in the "Ice Age" I relaxed a little and left out of the form. I wanted to return this state of tone, tightness. I really like that there are no special devices for classes. Just two meters square and rug. You can do exercises in any hotel, on any balcony, even on the set. And I still love to cook. This is also a kind of meditation for me. I constantly find some recipes on the Internet, reading books of Nicky Belotserkovskaya.
- Do you adhere to some kind of principles of child upbringing?
- We have home all each other respected. The child is also a person. When you accept this as an axiom, no problems arise. If a child approached you and asks something, you can't dismiss something from him, referring to employment. We are always discussing this moment with Maxim. For example: "Son, now I'm busy, I cook pancakes. There are two options: either you wait until I am freeing, or try to do it myself. And if it does not work, I will help you. " He had a crisis of three years, when our son from the obedient boy turned into a "non-good". He answered all offers. "No." "Tie shoelaces" - "No!", "Wearing a cap" - "No!", "Go to sleep" - "No!" But, fortunately, it lasted for a short time, a couple of months. There is such a first budget, separation from parents. And we must give this freedom. Wants to wear different boots? Let at least do this at home. That is, it is impossible to just ban, you need to provide a loophole. No prohibition, everything needs to talk about everything and negotiate. It is good that I understood this with Misha in time. Now Maxim has grown, so interesting became, the questions are different asking, began to read. We are going in the car, and he reads signs on the go.
- In English too?
- While in Russian, he knows the English alphabet and looks at English cartoons. Mom also talks to him in French. While he is quickly absorbed, we want to give another language.
- Are you going to school already?
- No, the next year. He will be six in February, it will turn out that six and a half will go. It is very musical, so we find for him and some classes related to music. We worked a lot with him over the development of small motility: Lepii, painted, made applications, I have a lot of interesting games for children for three to four years. I like it myself.
- What do you think boys and girls need to raise differently?
- First of us still climbs our upbringing, laid back in those Soviet realities. And then you say yourself: stop. We do not want to raise the child exactly as it was before? The time has changed. But sometimes breaking out the outward formulations from our childhood. There was some point when the son of Zakaprisnikali, zaknykl, and Misha said: "What are you crying like a girl?" And I also "distinguished". Maxim demanded something: "I want, I want!" - And I replied: "Yes, you never know what you want!" And at the same time I realized that I am not right. He is a man, and his desires are important. Therefore, I suggested the Misha to analyze our statements. And now we are both following this. When Maxim remains with the dad together, I see that they have another system of relationships, somehow sustain, more serious. But the son does not capricious, becomes a businesslike, a sort of peasant. Misha says: "Let's wear shoes." I, seeing that he does not work, hurry to intervene: "Help him, he does not fit his heel." - "Nothing, let himself." And I look, after a while, Max has already worked. The most important thing is that the father does not give his authority. It is important to talk with the child confidently, but at the same time with the warmth and love so that he felt protected. Authority should be built on respect, and not at fear.
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- The child does not ask, why did we come here from New York?
- No, he has two of these cities in consciousness. Here were in New York, now arrived in Moscow. We showed him on the map where they are. He knows where what stores toys. (Smiles.)
- Do not miss friends?
- He had friends there. In New Yor, there are such Play Day, that is, dates for the game. Suppose you came to the playground and your children met, played well together. Offer another mom: And let's meet here in the next Thursday. Maybe I'm not so interesting to talk to her, but most importantly, our children are perfectly in contact.
- Have you felt the difference between mentalities? Many, leaving abroad, recognized that there was not enough communication.
- Circle of communication can always be found for yourself, this is not a problem. And I can not say that I really need a company. For several months I lived, communicating only with my husband and the child, and did not feel deprived. Then there were friends, a five-six person, with whom we were periodically selected somewhere on coffee or went to museums, in children's parks. New York seemed to me the hospitable city, open for communication, relationships.
- So you are a cosmopolitan person?
- I dont know. I have no longer anywhere in except for New York. I adore Rome. There were six times there, but came only for several days, and there was no such opportunity to implement the city. Probably, in different places everything is different, but in New York you do not feel like a foreigner, because there are many visits. And languages are different: Spanish, German, Malaysian - so many cultures in one place! It affects music, and on fashion, and on food. But, of course, the Russian restaurant "Marivana", where we ate delicious cheese with the child, do not replace anything.