Starting a conversation about the psychology of secured people, allowing them to achieve a high level of wealth over again, we discussed the first two rules - the search for new sources of income and the passion for which it fell to do. Now let's talk about the warhead rules, which is not worth doing, especially when the income level decreases. In this case, I mean a very attractive look at the phrase "faith in a miracle." You see if faith in a miracle implies a serious risk, about welfare and thinking does not make sense. So,
Rule third. Do not play with fate. A secured person is not alien to Azart. In ordinary life with a stable income, he could well play a casino or make rates on jumps. Another thing is that on these adrenaline fun, he usually highlighted the amount that he could afford, and, tickling his nerves, returned to reality. But what happens when revenues are sharply reduced? Sometimes there is hope for a miracle and desperate desire to make a miracle and desperate desire to make sure that fate is still favorable. I know a man who still in the recent past did periodically reasonable rates, never turning the line, and after having lost a stable income, first began to risk a large, trying to "wart out" in fate in one fear. Fortunately, he realized the problem on time and sent the "game" energy to another line (later we will talk about it). If it is necessary to "tighten the belt", a secured person will calmly delete among the first expenditures on all sorts of "adrenaline". He just does not go more in a casino or on horseback. He will not play the lottery, arguing logically: the probability of winning is too low to count on it seriously. All its resources are aimed at returning their consistency, all actions are subordinated to a single goal.
Rule fourth. Live by means. A secured person knows well what a loan is. But if it takes him, then - on business development, having a clear idea of the possibilities and maturity methods. What a secured person is usually, in life with a stable income level - does not? Does not take a loan for an expensive status thing, just because it is expensive and status. Especially if she has a cheaper analogue that satisfies the appropriate need. This is the difference from the psychology of poverty, when a person buys a loan thing "not by means" to at least so feel at a higher step of the social staircase, and pays, in general, for a dream.
Alas, when the revenues of a secured person are sharply reduced, it can also get into a dangerous trap. Very difficult to "tighten the belt" and form new principles of control when making a responsible decision. The brain is quite difficult to reprogram, it resists: before the "Stop" signal turned on to larger sums. The solutions about the spent were planned, you had everything, which means there were no temptations. What is the temptation of a spontaneous expensive purchase, if you and so on any minute can afford it? Now, with a decrease in wealth, the temptations becomes more - and the desire to accept an emotional solution is stronger. I want to get something at the same moment, to prove to yourself that you are still "in order" and are not limited to the means. And here it makes sense to remind myself the main thing: you are trying to pay not for the thing, but for emotion. For the experience of joy and gifts to himself. What to do? Deculs to yourself in everything, chanting your teeth? No, in no case: if there are no emotional impressions, it will take motivation to return the usual lifestyle. The solution is simple: you need some kind of ritual, at least half an hour a day to satisfy the little whim, to the pellement. One of my client, in the recent past - the main accountant of a large chain of stores, recently lost work. I found a new one, but incomes, of course, are incomparable. I had to revise the previous principles of spending, but something she deliberately left unchanged: continued to buy a favorite variety of coffee and expensive chocolate. Every morning, as accustomed while the home still slept, she sat by the window in the kitchen, drank his special coffee and snatched a special chocolate. She left it as a reminder of the past life, allowing to configure the brain daily on the thinking of a secured person. Such gifts themselves can be any: perfume, wine, tea, jam, cream ... One-only whim, with which the feeling of life is connected for you. It will be enough money for her, and this ritual will be enough to not break - and do not buy from the resentment, annoyance and moral hunger of spontaneous "toys". Palaughter is permissible and necessary, it just should not be too much. In the end, who still strokes you on the head and make a gift for resistance, if not you yourself?
On this with the rules, what do not need to do is finished. And about what you need, let's talk next time. At the same time, discussed where to send the released energy of the game, Azart and Spontaneity.