Working on the image, we always think that everyone took into account: picked up "on the exit" and for work beautiful clothes, suitable shoes, bag, scarf. We look great and try to convey to those surrounding a certain message. We are designed every everyday step, we feel at the height.
And then ... Suddenly, rainy weather is installed, forcing us to get the old grandmother's umbrella into a cell and with flowers. "Do not mock in the rain, the right word?! This is just an umbrella! .. why spend on him?! "
Then the houses are cold, and we wear warm pretty well-worn woolen socks in rollers. "Conveniently! And no one sees! "
"And in the store for products you can go in a sports suit at all! And in winter - and at all in the skiing! Practically, neurochko! And so, by the way, you can walk with a child! "
Do you recognize yourself or someone from friends? .. Unfortunately, I can say from the practice that the examples given are quite common. And each of them shows that the work on image did not take place. Image is a holistic picture, a state, self-expression. The congruent image is the continuation of us, our self-esteem and love for yourself, which, like a lot, is truly manifested, again, in detail.
If you have accounted for several successful sets for specific situations and wear them as a mask - this is not a change of image. This is only mimicry, game. As soon as the situation is slightly distinguishes from the standard scenario, which you were calculated, from under the tight poorly fitted shell seem true you. And you real quite have the right to love cozy things and hate "hairpins", prefer more relaxed style and certain colors. From yourself, you will not be felt: Your sympathies and inclinations will constantly manifest itself, creating a feeling of flaws, if the external image was formed on false. But in fact, truly your features and desires are the most valuable! It is them that is worth putting in the foundation of the image! ..
So what to do? Wanting to change the image, analyze your needs and opportunities. Make lists of what you in yourself take and love, and what you want to change. We also describe the requirements of the environment: a dress code at work, a schedule of your life, the features of cultural defendance. According to the results of the analysis of these data, you have the most interesting and difficult: search for compromises that will satisfy you, and others, important for you for various reasons (relatives, loved ones, boss ...).
Separately also pay attention to the consideration of stressful or simply unusual situations. These may include: a sharp change of weather, illness, travel, hike to a new place for you (for example, to open the exhibition), emergency fees on the road, important negotiations, acquaintance with your men, official events, and so on. What will you do if you get into every one of them? What do you wear and take with you? If you are pulling into the former outer "comfort zone", then you work this point: analyze that you are still inhabit and abused in our new image and in his psychological filling. Why did not the internal changes occurred?
There is another good "Lacmus paper" - the situation of the "increased demand for comfort", as I call them. For example: home furnishings, walks with a child, trips for the city ... You still strive to put on something old, "What is not a pity"? Then about self-esteem, alas, it is too early to say. And it means, it is necessary to start from work in this direction, and only then change the external image.
Ideally, each your thing should be a continuation of you. It must be selected in accordance with the specific situation, be functional and aesthetically acceptable. Only when you can say so about all your skarb and clothes, you will be able to congratulate yourself: the congruent image has developed!
Good luck in search of yourself!
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Katerina Khokhlova, Image Consultant and Life Coach