In childhood, every girl played in the "mother's daughter" and dolls - the assimilation of this role model only contributed to the approval of the surrounding people. The game teaches the child the basic rules of concern for newborns, which will be useful in the future, as soon as the grazing girl decides to become a mother. In modern society, the border of age, when it is worth a child, only grows. People pushing the need for parents to the background and only closer to 30 think about the formation of the family. If you are not sure you want to become a mother, mentally check the ticks in the following items.
Ask your partner
The first, where to start preparation for parent - an honest conversation with your loved one. If your husband is immersed in the conquest of career peaks and does not want to hear about paternity, why take such responsibility? Decide together when you can give a child enough time to take care of him and give love and care. To pull the motherhood on one in the hope that the man gets used to the child - an raw solution. There is nothing wrong with the fact that you will become parents aged 35 years or 5-7 years old marriage. It is smarter than to make care of the chad on grandmothers and nanny or blame the teenager in that he spoiled you the best years of life.
The partner should also be ready to become a parent.
Become a realist
Combibly take off the career, frequent meetings with friends, the restless spark in relationships, sports and motherhood is impossible. You need to understand that the concern for the newborn will take almost all day - neither the strength nor the time for hiking in the cafe and cinema will not be at first. It will be easier only after 2-3 years, when the child will grow up and go to kindergarten. Until that time, he is a boss that defines your plans for the day. If you are not ready to temporarily sacrifice the well-established rhythm of life, it means that you have to do with the parent.
Get ready to work more
In 2014, the US Department of Agriculture has prepared a report, according to which parents spend about 300 thousand dollars to raise a child from birth to adulthood, which is equal to 20 million rubles. We doubt that every family can afford to spend about 90 thousand rubles per month, but if you want to provide a baby really worthy of life, this amount is justified. You and your husband will have to work in reinforced mode to give the heir to education, pay hobbies and entertainment.
You will have to work even more than before
Work over the character
If you often be nervous at work, and in your personal life, and go to the conflict on trifles, motherhood is not the best undertaking. A small child will often cry, break everything around and behave badly up to 5-7 years. Stable psyche - a deposit in educating a healthy member of society, not neurotic. Arrange with you that you will work on emotionality and try to become restrained. It will save your nerves and get rid of many diseases, which means life will be happy and will allow you to enjoy parents in full.