When the conversation comes into people close to us, any accusations and discontent in their address we perceive as if you were offended personally. Often parents do not know measures and do not know how to restrain their emotions when they discuss the object of his sympathy with the child. As a result, Pado closes in itself, he cops offended and, if necessary, appeals to friends or more loyal relatives. If you want to keep close family relationships, you need to learn the rules of good tone.
Come in my senses
When we are annoyed by problems at work or in personal life, breaking on a close person is easier than simple - it is worth only to give a reason. Now imagine that the teenager feels the rings of aggression literally every half hour. It is not surprising that any conversation is on the verge of positive and negative perception. Before starting a dialogue, you must calm down and come to a good mood. Start a conversation from sarcasm, reproaches and requirements - a direct path to the explosion of emotions and mutual insults.
Be a friend, then Chado will be able to talk to you on frank topics
tell us about yourself
Personal conversation is always better to start with the expression of your position. Dedicate the child in the secrets of your first love - for sure you did not talk about it before. Remember how the person looked like, where is your sympathy, and what results it led. Not everyone is lucky to meet the love of life from the first attempt, so your experience can give a lot to younger generation.
Jokes are good, but not always
When you tell funny stories from the past related to your former partners, or bring the stupid actions of the girlfriends as an example, it makes sense to treat it with humor. The only topic is about to speak seriously - the question of contraception. You can endlessly close your eyes and say that your child is "not from that", that's just practice shows the opposite. Clamp how to use condoms correctly and why do not take hormonal drugs. At the age of 15-16, many schoolchildren begin sexual life, which should lead them to positive experience, and not tears from unwanted pregnancy. Mentally mature teenager will adequately perceive this information and hears you.
Become a guide in adulthood
Do not judge sorry
You need to understand that evaluating the words and actions of another person is not as simple as it seems. When Choo tells you that they have been discussed with the second half on a date, what plans are building for future life, you do not need to break dreams of harsh reality. Do not be boring - it is meaningless. Your child is not you, so you have no idea how in reality his fate will be. Let him coming on a rake, studying his mistakes and turns novels with different people. Be a friend, not a teacher, surround the maternal caring and caress. Then he will understand that even a broken heart can come to you and get real support, and not hear morals.