Many people are panicly afraid of treason: one is connected with the unsuccessful experience of the past, others do not want to get into such a position. Interestingly, the treason of men and women understand differently. Researchers of the University of Chapman conducted a survey among 64,000 Americans, offering an alternative: "In what situation would you upset more - if your partner has sex with another person or showed a notion signs about love?" 65% of the surveyed women and only 46% of men chose a second option. In this material we will try to explain why the feeling of jealousy arises and how to deal with its excessive manifestation.
The norm is individual
Some calmly react when the partner is flirting with his interested people, the other setting is forbidden to flip in social networks with ribbon with photos of people of the opposite sex. No psychologist will tell you that the first behavior is a standard, and the second - an explicit violation of the norm simply because there are no norms. The tolerant level of the manifestation of jealousy varies at the request of partners. If you with your loved one, you like the glow of passions and hot spores after the scene of jealousy - please live as comfortable to you. At the beginning of the relationship, it is better to discuss this topic to hear the partner's reasoning and understand whether you are ready to accept his position.
Do not waste nerves on a unworthy person
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Diffidence
The most common reason that any psychological article calls. Usually, this item follow the tips to pass therapy, learn how to dress stylishly, come in a great shape and love yourself more than a partner. True, some jokes say that jealousy is not insecurity, but insecurity in you. If the partner for his behavior makes you nervous, become suspicious and get under the emotional impact, from a calm person you will be too fast in neurotic. The only way out is to escape from a person who "feeds on" your negative emotions, and does not try to change the situation.
The less you know the better you sleep
What is the point of spending his life in search of a potential mistress? If a man decides to change you, nor a stamp in a passport, nor the presence of five children and a common dog, nor your lace peignoir - nothing will change its decisions. Yes, and women's lovers tend to overestimate partners. Often the most aggressive wives are those whose husbands do not differ in no income level or physical form, nor nontrivial thinking. So, instead of thinking of a "serious" conversation about why the beloved half an hour was delayed at work, direct your free time for self-development and care for loved ones.
Better Take care of yourself and partner, do not waste time on quarrel
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Look at others
Treason was experiencing such chic women as Beyonce, Sara-Jessica Parker, Gwen Stephanie - the list can be continued infinitely. Some girls find the strength to forgive betrayal, worked out the problems of relations and the causes of dissatisfaction with family life. However, most are shaved forever with traitors - then they find a new love and live happily. Even if your man does such an act, you can become even better than before, and in time, forget about the existence of a traitor.
What do you think? Did the betrayal happen to you and who was their reason?