I love such examples of dreams. Sleep is the road to the unconscious, and thanks to this column, I know for sure that not only in the personal unconscious, but also in the family. The fact that in everyday communication eludes attention, in a dream it is strongly knocking on to the information that this information concerns.
Below is the example of sleeping our heroine:
"I dreamed of a dream in which I communicated with some" clairvoyant ", which can open my eyes to some important moments. And I pulled out something like a card (it looks like a postcard, like a postcard, but without a picture, only fields for the address). And, looking at her, she realized: "They found you on the Badzhik." And explained: "Remember, you have documents in which there are gaps instead of data, this is a solution." And I began to take advantage that it was not for me! This is my mom! For sure! And from the voltage woke up with feeling that some kind of important explanation missed. "
It is worth saying that a number of working methods in family therapy is built on the idea that there is a family field in which there is a memory of events with each family member and about each. But besides this, the family is guided by its own myths, prohibitions and rules. For example, you noticed that there are families who do not speak about anything with each other: they live together, everyone is engaged in something with their own meetings, there are no plans - too, all apart. Other families do everything together, communicate with each other a lot, volume. In some families they boil passion, in others everything is intelligent and chinno. But each family has a set of their laws, rules, norms. The more contradictory, the more difficult to act in them and communicate openly. But, in addition, each family has secrets, their skeletons in the closet: events that are hiding and silent due to different circumstances. In addition to secrets, there are also family members who do not speak, because they died, or committed some serious misconduct, or they themselves suffered from someone's hands. Their fate is so frightening that the family chooses to be silent about them.
And than such secrets are more, the stronger the general family field "holds" them. You cannot find out directly about this: everyone forgot or silent.
All people have the right to their secrets, you will say - and you will be right. But in the family system there are other laws. The more the family wears secret passions, secrets, the more distincting them feel the descendants of those who silent secrets. The descendants are in their body in the form of diseases or fall into the same intentions of fate as their predecessors.
There are many studies telling that the members of the same family are sick of the same diseases in the same age. There are certain patterns in the number of marriages and children, in ages in which something happens: divorces, moving or immigration, the birth of children or parallel relations.
Now let's go back to the sleep of our heroine. "Clairvoyant", that is, the unconscious wisdom of her family, reports to her that in information, in documents related to her (or with her mom) there are gaps, there are not enough knowledge about women's birth, which are relevant for the dreams right now.
We wish our heroine perseverance to learn and use knowledge for yourself.
And what dreams of you? Examples of your dreams send by mail: [email protected].
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin