I recently recognized an interesting example of sleep. It demonstrates what experiences are in our subconscious. For some reason, often due to soreness, they are displaced and live as if nothing significant happened. But it is impossible to get rid of feelings. Hard experiences, annoying soaps begin to pursue.
"I'm going to go somewhere on my car, I wake them up at home and sit in the car.
My neighbor warns me so that I was careful, because some kind of crazy ride around the city, she is dangerous.
I nod and leave for the road, but as soon as I turn on the traffic light, a car with a lilac is attached behind me and pursues me. For some reason, my car, and the car is back with an open top. And I see in her the most crazy woman who screams something to me after, whines, crying, hides.
I'm scared, I want to break away from her, because I press gas, but it accelerates too, then I brake in the hope that she will overtake me, but she also dumps the speed.
And all the time crying and shouts to me on the trail something coming, words I can not understand.
All my maneuvers are unsuccessful, and then I suddenly wake up with the thought that she is the same part of me from which I can't run away. "
Of course, our dream is lucky, as it partly understood the meaning of sleep itself.
In a dream, she learned in his crazy pursuer some part of herself.
Now let's talk about it in more detail about it.
There are such features character, thoughts and manifestations of ourselves that we would like to eradicate. As a rule, these features and quality in society are something shameful or forbidden. We first find out about it when we are still in childhood they say they say: "You can not be angry with mom" or "If you behave this way, you will become the same bad as your father," "Do not play with him, it is abnormal."
Since childhood, we assimilate that it is impossible to be too rich / poor, sexual, emotional, weak, dependent, passionate, demonstrative, etc.
These sides of our personality have to keep control of daily, but they break through to us in dreams, demanding recognition on a par with our "good" qualities.
For example, a woman can categorically deny that he wants someone to like, be sexy and easy to communicate. Instead, it becomes a business, discreet and formal, pusing the aforementioned sides of their personality. Most often, such qualities, it will condemn other, away from the relatives, but after all, these her own faces will not disappear anywhere. Most likely, through dreams, it will somehow cope with those parties that are not manifested in life. Almost all of her dreams can be bright, unpredictable, many may have many erotic symbols. So her subconscious and conscious behavior line find some balance.
Now let's go back to the dream of our dreams. In a dream, she finds reconciliation with the part of himself, which calls "Crazy", namely: suffering, crying, novel.
Perhaps in the life of our heroin there was some event, to raise because of which it would be unreasonable or wrong. However, her soul, despite the arguments of the reason, continues to mourn and worry.
Probably, the dreams in life tightly keeps himself in the cord, not allowing the feelings to take the top. It is important that in a dream she heard her own cry for help: that it is impossible to escape from their own grief and suffering, you need to give it time and pay the necessary attention to the experiences, without hugging and avoiding them.
The painful feelings and thoughts that we express themselves do not pursue us anymore, making our life is freer and easier.
And how do you help you? Send them to mail: [email protected].
Maria Zemskova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazina