Manipulators are found in our lives in all areas, but the most dangerous are here, next to us. And these are our parents. Very often the parent-manipulator sacrifice the closest - his child, because he does not wash anything about it and, most importantly, not going anywhere, and adult knows it. The child does not understand for some time that the situation in the house is far from normal, but in any case he feels discomfort, which he is experiencing next to his relatives. Such a child grows with a bouquet of all sorts of disorders, to eliminate which is less than one year in the office of the psychotherapist. Today we decided to figure out how phrases can be calculated toxic parent and how to cope with such pressure.
"But the Tamnatshin Son ..."
Funny flash mob, which appeared on the network a couple of children back, in reality is not so fun. The essence was that a certain "son of the mother's girlfriend" is always better than you, and you, in turn, is a chronic loser. Such a scheme is very often used toxic parents: "You look where Sasha entered! You would not even be allowed inside. "And all in such a spirit after mom will talk to his friend, whose child successfully passed the exams in the prestigious university. At such moments, a complete depreciation of the child begins, the parent is trying to "call for the mind" a breakdown child, thereby creating an incredibly deep injury with which an adult will cope with his psychologist.
"I'm always better!"
The parent's manipulator is always partly narcissus. This type is rare, but is probably one of the most unpleasant species of toxic parents. A typical phrase of such a relative will be: "It's strange, you love your husband for something like something, and I look at what graceful, although much older than you." There is nothing harmless here - there is a depreciation of your own child, so that it is better to seem better in his own eyes.
Toxic parent always depreciates all the efforts of the child
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"What are you so happy?"
This type of parents raises future neurotics and extremely disturbing people. Children in such families almost nothing can not, even minute weaknesses like eating sweets Before dinner, the parent calls to a whole crime. The child always performs all the whims of the parent, already, if there is time, it is doing what it is like him, but this time, naturally, it rarely appears with him - the parent will simply not allow some kind of activity without his knowledge.
Is there a way out of toxic relationships with your parent?
Hold the distance
The easiest way to reduce the negative impact of the parent is to distance. Often, a child is difficult to separate from their relatives, even if he suffers in his own house, but it is worth just to start looking for ways to keep away from toxic relatives, you begin to feel much better, and thoughts about returning simply does not arise.
Find support
As support and inspiration can be like other relatives, and good friends who will be able to find the right words and slowly, but your wounds will surely heal. You can share feelings with loved ones in the spirit of a person, which means that negative emotions will not eat you from the inside.
Do not be afraid to contact a specialist
We are still afraid of the offices of psychologists and psychoanalysts, although often this is the only way to solve your problems. If there is such an opportunity, contact a specialist together with my parents, perhaps they simply do not realize how harm all this time applied you with their ways of upbringing.