At least once in life, each of us listened to the story, as her friend broke the heart of his beloved person, or became a witness to the scandal of a couple in a public place. Why are some constantly quarreling and parted with the weights, and the other people find a suitable person in just a couple of attempts? There is no scientific research on this topic, so it remains to argue only within the framework of psychology. Write in the comments whether you agree with our position or have a different opinion.
Stop being comfortable
The main problem of girls lies in a desire to adjust the beloved person. He writes that he wants to meet with you in the evening, have you already agreed on dinner with a friend? Do not dare to move it to the background: so the guy will leave, and lose your girlfriend. In the first place you must have your own interests, like him - their own, but only then common. If you constantly sacrifice the plans for the sake of meetings, in the end, you will remain at the broken trough - you will not build a career, you will not find close friends, but you will be addicted to the man and his company. Stimulate your loved one to combine your individual plans with common. For example, you can sit together and work, instead of useless viewing of the next series, or go together to workout in the gym.
Spend a joint time with benefit
Love your appearance
Forget the typical phrases from the films like "Do not look at me, I am not painted" or "It's time to sit on a diet." Only you decide how you want to look, not your boyfriend, mom, and anyone! If you understand that you are uncomfortable in this weight or with this color of the hair, go and change everything that does not suit. A loving person will not mind to reproach you for a personal decision. Yes, and the radiance of eyes from its own reflection in the mirror will make even more feeling the feelings for you. The more you like yourself, the more love you - everything is simple!
Start appreciate your free time.
Each person must have personal time and space. It is clear that not everyone can afford to buy an apartment with several rooms under personal offices, separate bathrooms and dressing rooms. But you can always find an output to have time to be alone with your thoughts and affairs. If you do not live together, do not hurry to ride: you will often have a guy away, but the house will always be a cozy nest, where you can relax from the environment of other people and concentrate on your work. And if you live together, never forbid him to go to visit friends, let him leave, or even leave for separate travel. Temporary parting affects you and to him.
Move your favorite thing
Find a hobby that will pass you and give vital energy. It can be both sports and drawing, singing or molding from clay. Try different things, but be sure to achieve your goal - to find this business. Believe it, it is important! Doing them, you will be distracted from pressing problems, develop and eat positive. After such sessions to the guy, you will return in a great mood. And not a positive of strong relationship?
Look in the dark corners of his soul
Do not silence when there is something to say
It is not known who became the author of the myth, as if men are silent and do not need conversations. In every man sits a little boy with his own stories - both cheerful and sad. You should not take on the role of a psychologist and solve his problems, but you can always listen and support. When you yourself complain about your favorite day or a quarrel with a friend, ask him how he feels? You must learn empathy: to see when he is upset, trying to help cope with the problem, if he wants to open you. In this mutual exchange of energy, you learn to understand each other and find the keys to the closed doors. Having built confidence, you provide yourself with a reliable partner - first of all, and then a lover. Agree?