"Good day! I recently met a young man who is 8 years younger than me. We have been met for several months, and while everything goes great. However, I am tormented by doubts how much such an alliance can be strong - will there be problems with mutual understanding and intimate relationships? Please give advice, is it worth counting on a happy union? " Elizabeth, 34 years old.
Dear Elizabeth! Relationships in which a woman is older than a man now is not uncommon. Any successful pair, regardless of the age of partners, it is necessary to have a metacelonia - understanding, for which the union was created that it gives each of the partners. If you are aware of the meaning of your partnership in unity and complementary, then age is not so important. The main thing is to feel like a half of another person, but not dissolving entirely in it, but even completing it. The best way to show a man that he is not indifferent to you is the sincere interest that he loves and does. For example, if your partner is fond of any sport, then try to join it. Let the man teach you, let him feel his power and masculinity. But it is important to understand that the exchange must be equal, so if the partner does not show interest in your business, then this reason to think about it.
Separately, it is worth mentioning the difficulties in the intimate sphere, with which there may be a pair with a difference in age. It is important to correctly determine the source of the problem. If a woman is missing, for example, techniques in sex, and she is experiencing about how to fit a younger partner, then all the necessary skills and knowledge are easy to make special sex training. If over time, classic sex ceases to bear the pair of previous bright emotions, it is without problems solving the introduction of novelty and diversity into an intimate life: new types of proximity, fresh sexual techniques and techniques, role-playing images, intimate toys. If you are not ready for such experiments yet, then try first to surprise the partner with the tone of your vaginal muscles - "Pump" them independently with the help of vaginal balls or automatic simulators, or sign up for the art of vaginal sex.
If the problem, on the contrary, is that the young partner does not "reach" before your sexual experience, then using small female tricks, you can "teach" a male sex and at the same time not to hurt him feelings.
Another thing is when difficulties in intimate life arise because of serious disagreements in a pair or deep psychological complexes, whose correction is more complex. It is important to realize and take the problem, and then start working with it. If partners can find a decision on their own, it will only strengthen their union. If it is not necessary to do without helping, it is not worth treating it with a supervision, it is better to spend time and get rid of the problem from a psychologist-sexologist than to pull through the whole life a varnish complexes.
There is no universal advice, than to be guided in relations with pairs with a difference in age. But it is worth saying that any pair is needed constant evolution. Partners should be improved every day. Take the rule to be guided only by your feelings, here the orientation on a third-party opinion may seriously interfere, because what is suitable for one, absolutely not applicable to others. And really happy unions arise outside the framework, including age.
Ekaterina Lyubimova, leading Russian sex coach