As a rule, both spouses feel the approach divorce long before it happens. However, most pulls out this moment to avoid painful sensations associated with this unpleasant event. Nevertheless, there are several signs that clearly make it clear that you need to take action, otherwise the marriage will disintegrate in the near future.
During the SSOR, the spouse begins to go to the person
Naturally, without quarrels in the family can not do: it is difficult to stay next to a person most of the time and not to experience unpleasant emotions, let it be your favorite husband. This is completely normal. However, when the criticis is not related to the situation, but it moves to you, it is a reason to think about what happens between you.
"Signal" phrases in this case become: "But you ...", "You are as always ...", etc. It is impossible to solve the problem, because your spouse is looked at your shortcomings that can only seem.
What psychologists advise
In a situation where you are experiencing negative emotions, never go to personality: you must solve the problem in which you are both guilty. Avoid wording that can hurt a spouse, better inform your sensations and how you see the solution to the problem.
Talk as often as possible
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Spouse applies to you with contempt
It is not necessary to say something here: sometimes one glance is enough to understand what a person thinks about you. It is extremely unpleasant. Therefore, try to avoid sarcasm and contemptuous statements. Mockery is inappropriate in family life. Also make comments to a partner if he allows himself behavior in such a spirit to your address.
Aggression and accusations
As soon as you start solving the problem with the attack, get an attack in response. The same applies to the second party. It is very difficult to build a constructive dialogue when one of the spouses is charged with accusations, and not always justified. To avoid this, try to get into the partner's place and imagine how he sees this situation. It is important to understand what another person feels, then you can already talk about the establishment of relationships.
Do not closure to yourself
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Spouse closes
When you build a family, it is important to learn how to find an approach to your spouse, otherwise you will remain someone else's people. In addition, your partner may think that you were cool to him, but in fact you simply do not want to get involved in the conflict. Try to discuss all the incomprehensible situations that arise in your life.
You constantly recall past resentment
No matter how surprisingly, people better remember bad, rather than positive. However, remind of this spouse at any convenient case is also wrong: you must solve the problem, and not toggle the new flame of the scandal. Live hereby, without regard to past troubles, in addition, without negative, it is impossible to know the importance of positive in relationships.
Find the approach to the partner
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