I will give an example of sleep, which recently disassembled by me and my client - a young man. He agreed to this publication so that readers had the opportunity to do a similar job with him.
A little circumstances of his life so that the context of sleep was understood. He is young, successful, recently married. And busy with what is looking for new and new spheres for self-development. The wife of this guy has a softer character and another temperament - it is thoughtful, smooth and careful to themselves. This guy is like a meteor. Quick, smart, with chain mind and rapid reactions. While those surrounding are thinking, he has already done everything. To his wife, he also began to make requirements for more self-priority chust, about insufficient commitment to self-improvement ideas. He feels a permanent "Gon" - the need to do something, to move continuously and somehow strive for more. Always. Constantly. "So it's great! All correctly guy does, "you think. It's not about actions, but in an obsessed position charged on a constant search for self-improvement without resting and real satisfaction from the fact that I am just me.
Working with these themes in life, my client dreamed of sleep: "A young girl gave birth to me. Everyone looks at the newborn baby and they say that something is wrong with him that he is underdeveloped. In a dream, the baby is a member, you only have to guess that under the diapers underdeveloped handles and legs. And he himself is tiny. All surrounding whispering that something is wrong with the baby. And I am alone I know that he is well that he will simply turn it out. Baby, my son in a dream, in perfect order. "
When we disassembled this dream, I asked the client that he knows about his birth. It turned out that he was born sevenway, all these conversations about "underdevelopment" were spoken over his cradle. Mom worried him, developed him, tried to compensate for "underdevelopment." And right up to the youthful age, the conviction was thrown in his life that he was still unworthy. It will give him to school with children with a delay in development, then in sports in groups of kids, although he physically and mentally corresponded to his age. That's just the belief that it is not developed, worked and gave its fruits.
It must be said here that the events described treated at the time when the child was only born. It is important to know that during this period of your life, the child's brain records what is happening with her mother, as with him himself, as it is biologically with a mother more indivisible. If the mother survived the drama that her son will underdeserse, the universal mind of the baby will perceive it as a program of life. In modern biological approaches, this is called "Programming Phase" - a period in which the child was conceived and only was born. Psychology of parents becomes his own psychology.
When the client tied this dream with his story, then did the discovery that the dream helped him to separate other people's fears from her own attitude towards himself. Others were afraid that something was wrong with him, his parents were afraid. And he is fine! And he does not need to compensate, modify himself and infinitely improve.
His dream that the baby is he. And the baby, that is, in full norm! He knows this from the inside, and not outside, in the echo votes around.
As a result of sleep and reasoning about their deepest childhood, the client brought the formula: "I'm fine! I ripe! ".
It is interesting to see how his life will arise through the prism of what he is self-sufficient. Curious what ways he refuses the idea that he is with a defect that needs to compensate. The initial life position is changing. I assume that the first thing he will feel the reduction of voltage from the inside, which must be changed to "catch up" norm. And this in itself the most valuable result - to find yourself and be pleased that I am me.
We wish him good luck! And the next issue is also about a dream of a young man - do not miss!
And what dreams of you? Examples of your dreams send by mail: [email protected]. The way, the dreams are much easier to express if in a letter to the editor you will write preceding life circumstances, but most importantly - feelings and thoughts at the time of awakening from this dream.
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin