Homemade tyrants - not such a rare phenomenon in our days, many women for years and even decades live with domestic tyranans and see the possibilities from them to leave. It is worth making a reservation: married quarrels, conflicts and even fights of emotional spouses with each other and home tyranny - different things: home tyranny is a system in which there is no equal relationship, albeit conflict, and there is a tyrant and there is his victim.
The problem is not only that the victims of home tyranans are intimidated, but also in the fact that their personality is practically destroyed as such than their home tyranans do without exception, asserting due to the victim. But how to recognize your home tyrant in a man when relationships are just beginning and it's not too late to fix it?
There are a number of signs that testify that your man refers to the category of toxic people who are very easy to turn into household tyrants, at least once felt the complete impunity and humility of the victim.
Ekaterina Zdan.
First of all, this is, of course, any manifestations of manipulation and aggression are not only physical, but also verbal, consisting in insults, threats, humiliation.
Secondly, it is less noticeable, unlike violence, this is the use of ordinal tone in communication. Any requests are the nature of orders or orders, and such a partner expects strict implementation and complete submission.
Thirdly, constant criticism in combination with ridicule and depreciation is also an unequivocal evidence that we are dealing with a toxic person, possibly suffering from a narcissistic disorder that can easily be transformed into home tyrana.
Fourthly, a pathological jealousy is often characteristic of home tyrants, not with love for a spouse, and with fear to lose a sacrifice that can go to a more worthy person. In the depths of the soul, home-made tyran understands its inferiority and inability to create a healthy family, and it is even more angry.
Fifth, home tyranny tend to establish total control over their victim. They will try to embroil the spouse with her relatives, prohibit communicate with old girlfriends and friends, transport to another city, will carefully study social networks and the contents of the phone, just to not lose control of the victim.
It is worth understanding that there is nothing saint for home tyrant. It refers to the breed of people who mock the weaker and do not have the slightest mercy. Remember that in a normal family there is no place for domestic violence, and as soon as its "first calls" appear, do not justify the tyrannic effects and do not train your patience, or attempt to stop such behavior at root, or dissolve the marriage and leave such a spouse.
If you are already under the influence of domestic violence for a long time and do not make radical actions due to fear not to cope, you should not be afraid of "make sorrows from the hut" and contact crisis centers to help women.