For many people, appeal to a psychologist - an easy task. We are not accustomed to solve problems in the office of a specialist, considering psychologists and other specialists responsible for our sincere equilibrium, Blazh. Instead, we pour the whole negative from your life on friends and relatives, sincerely believing that it will become easier. And yet a friend is not able to solve most problems simply because he should not solve them. We decided to assemble the reasons why a good friend can not always be a good "psychologist."
Psychologist is interested only in working with you
The relationship of the psychologist and its client is built exclusively in the working key. Among the clients there are quite interesting people who can attract a psychologist, he, too, a person with his hobbies, however, the line is not the right of any specialist - so the whole process aimed at helping this person is violated. A psychologist with his client cannot associate either friendly, nor side workers, nor the more intimate relationship. At the same time, a friend or relative always has its own interests and motives, not everyone can tell you even a close person in fear of losing personal contact.
Specialist will not gossip
The main point is the lack of common acquaintances. Like a doctor, a psychologist simply has no right to extend about the topics of the conversation with you and other personal information, even if the relatives will insist on this. No word can "exit" the cabinet door. In the case of close friends, we always filter what we want to say, as a result, the whole meaning of therapy comes with no, as the frankness is the key to high-quality therapy.
Sometimes only a specialist will help
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You will not devalue
For some reason, we used to assume that phrases like: "Don't be Rasky!", "You're a man!", "Hold on!" Must solve all the problems of a person who seemed to help. A friend or relative in such a situation is intuitively trying to support and help, in fact, emotions and all feelings are simply depreciated, it becomes even worse than it was. A real professional will never say anything like that and certainly will not interrupt. Another plus in the piggy bank of the psychologist.
A friend can make even worse
What to hide, many of our friends are required for psychological assistance, and communication with a person in itself art. When the problem of a psychological character appears, it is important to clearly understand what the reason for which the "nodes" in consciousness need to be "untied", how to act in the event of an unforeseen reaction to certain words. A close friend can be a man who in a crucial moment of the conversation may be completely wrong, thereby deepening your problem and not only will not help solve it, but will create new difficulties for a specialist in solving it. In addition, it is possible that there are toxic people in your environment who simply gives pleasure to manipulate the other - this situation is the most dangerous. That is why, thinking about telling a friend about a personal problem or contact a psychologist, try to make a choice in favor of the second.