The topic of orgasm is always relevant. Calm-psychotherapist, coach for the implementation of the purpose of Ilya Bearetsev and the RPT-therapist, the female development coach, Irina Shekunov, decided to dispel a few myths associated with it.
Ilya: Often I hear from others that men have an orgasm to continue the kind, and women seem to be uncomfortable. For me, this is complete nonsense. As far as I know, the orgasm is closely associated with the energy exchange between people. And not all men ending with orgasm. I would now divide the physiological process and an energy explosion, as Daoists were separated. Moreover, in the literal sense, Taoist men knew how to receive an orgasm when Aurora did not shoot. It turns out if we can influence this, it means that we can control it. At the same time, 80% of women do not reach the top of Everest. It is interesting to hear a female look at this problem.
Irina: Yes, the topic is relevant. In my experience and experience of my clients, the easiest way to orgasm lies through ... head. The main reason for his absence is distrust partner. You are the right in the fact that the orgasm is not only physiological process, but also energy. It turns on unconscious fears - lose themselves, dissolve in a partner. At this point there is a complete loss of control, and therefore the head simply does not fully give up pleasure. And then, if there is no confidence partner, the body begins to unconsciously defend himself, blocking an orgasm, so as not to be in a situation that can be regarded unconscious as a danger. The key is in absolute relaxation and trust. And they have no place to control.
Ilya: I agree. I also believe that nothing just happens. If you want to relax, and suddenly in the process there is an unconscious failure, for sure it is a bell. Systematic failures in men are called impotence, in women - the lack of orgasm. For them, as a rule, something is worth: relations with a partner, children's injuries, self-relation, etc. If not to talk about innate and physiological problems. Wake up go to a psychotherapist. But maybe there are any acceptors on you on the coming that you can share with the readers so that it is easier for them to rise in a balloon above the clouds?
Irina: In the event that we are talking about healthy relations in which you like a partner and want to be with him, - and I hope that our readers are held by such a relationship - for a start, I would advise you to talk with a partner and share what you are with you happens. For more contact with its feelings, a relaxing massage is perfectly working, which will help you learn the most sensitive points of each other. Direct view of the eye to the partner will help you strengthen the feeling of proximity between you and turn off the mind. You can try to learn in the process, giving out our animal instincts, it will also help switch from the head in sensations.
If all this does not bring any results, then perhaps the problem is deeper: it can melt in the accumulated negative emotions to the partner or previously emotional injuries. In this case, I would recommend contacting the problem to a psychotherapist.
And those who are still in search of their second half, for life and bright orgasms, we would like to invite our training partner to our training.