Happy couples also swear

People for some reason tend to believe that the ideal relationship is when well there is no quarrel and conflicts, when people are equally thinking, feel when they never emerge the contradictions when they have exactly the same interests, desires and so on ... it turns out, What we strive for something unattainable. As a result of such installations, own relationships are underestimated and, at best, are considered only close to the mythical ideal. To dispel these prejudices, I want to write about the fact that, according to the latest research, happy couples are also swearing. An important point is that the quarrel is not perceived by partners as a symptom of disintegration of relations. That is, if we configure yourself in advance that if there is a contradiction, it means that the marriage failed, and with each relationship the relationship becomes worse and worse, then it will be. And any quarrel will give us away from each other. Also, according to the same research, the marriage is considered stable if:

a) the wife in conflict starts slowly;

B) The husband allows his wife to influence their decisions.

On the contrary, there are also unfavorable indicators - the so-called 4 riders of the apocalypse, which sooner or later lead to a break of relations:

1st is a personal critic. That is, a discussion of the conflict situation goes into attacks on the personality of a partner.

2nd - contempt.

The 3rd is a cold wall - when, in the process of finding out the relationship, one of the partners "closes" and stops listening.

4th - protective behavior or, simply speaking, criticism in response to criticism.

The presence of listed manifestations is really detrimental for the relationship.

And the casual quarrels are not a sign of an unhappy union. On the contrary, if people are silent and never figured out relationships, it indicates that they are indifferent to each other, or they diligently silence discontent, and this is a time bomb.

These are my sound, reinforced scientifically, thoughts about the perfect relationship.