There are situations and goals when such a work format is possible. However, in my opinion, then it is appropriate to speak not about creating an image, as a complex, deployed in space and time, a system, but about the drawing of the image - an instant image. When applies? For a photo shoot and for a specific event (business presentation, celebration, secular event, etc.). But even in these cases it is impossible to work exclusively with the "external" source of information and requirements, be it mom, a husband or a friend. One way or another, thoughtful, as far as possible is the deep, study of the identity of the most direct client, for which it takes at least a separate consultation-interview with a duration from an hour to three.
If we say exactly about the image, about building an individual style, then the intervention of someone else's opinion (how much is a loved one!) It will more often hurt than it will help. Comments from people can make trouble "close", refuse to change and develop in full force or form a humble-humble behavior, a non-consistent agreement with everything against the background of general depression. "Disclose" the potential that aggressively resisting, which is too squeezed and not ready to contact the client, as you understand, is almost impossible. The work turns from an advisory in the field of image in psychotherapeutic and, by and large, it is necessary to attract an already relevant specialist with a completely different work profile.
As we said, the image arises at the junction between his carrier and the target audience. And, as it is impossible not to take into account the view of the latter, it is also impossible to bypass the personality and features of the query of the first. If someone convinces you that he can change the image in two bills, say, your husband, who is categorically against this venture, do not believe it! Of course, the extensive experience of the image consultant, his charisma and skills in the field of applied psychology mean a lot, but he is not impressive. In the end, there are people who are hard to give in to hypnosis, what to say about more "superficial" methods of conviction! If a person has a desire to change and grow in principle, but he has not yet realized that work on the appearance is part of this path, then it can be argued with him to talk and decline it to the thoughts on improving the image. If not - do not try to commit "violence against personality."
In other words, if you have a desire to send "to stylists" from time to time, you will stop and think about it. A gift in the form of a certificate for visiting such a specialist can be offended and sacrifice the addressee, and even if he (or she) agrees, it is unlikely that something feell will come out of a forced visit. Without preparatory work with your (as a donor), the parties should not be able to do: you need at least to check the presence of at least the desires of desire to improve your appearance and explain that your present does not bear the negative semantic load. Only then can be decided with a calm heart on such a brave and responsible step!
But how to do it, if you want to just demonstrate to a person, what beautiful and harmonious it can be? Is there no way out? There is! You can organize a photo session for him: a specialist picks up images based on the preliminary conversation, attracts masters on makeup and hairstyle for the incarnation of conceived, rent a studio and invites the photographer. For a couple of hours of working with a team of professionals, of course, the image will not change. However, beautiful photos and new experience are able to inspire further search, give a momentum to develop and strengthen faith in yourself. In addition, a good photographer can help even remove the "pressure" in front of the camera.
As you can see, help, even the closest, it is worth carefully and with the mind!
I wish you always keep a sense of tact in trying to improve the world!
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Katerina Khokhlova, Image Consultant and Life Coach