The classic model of "Nonmennnitsy" in our society is also the most bright way.
Syndrome "Naddannica" has the basis of double programs: "I rejected by the male world" and "I am valuable for the male world." None of the daughter of the nobility of Ogudallova could not create a happy relationship with a man. Destructive programs guided by her daughters takes the beginning in the root system of the female Ogudalloy. The viewer is a widow with a widow, which has a manual rejection program manifested in the full way. The destructive functionality of the program can manifest themselves in various ways: treason of spouse, dependence (alcoholism, gaming, workolism), care of a spouse. Generic programs are inherited at the gene level and are activated at certain life stages.
Ostrovsky showed a manifestation of a destructive generic program on relationships with the male world in each of the daughters. The older daughter of Ogudalova issued a marriage for a cartoon player and Shulera, which crowded the marriage relationship due to its gaming addiction. Mrs. Ogudalova gave his middle daughter for the poor jealous Georgian prince, who did not even bring to Tiflis, killing her on the road from jealousy. The fate of the youngest daughter, Larisa, is described in detail in the film Eldar Ryazanov: Beautiful, talented, an exquisite girl who knows how to file himself in society, who has a rare gift of charm in communicating with men, was able to conquer the hearts of many noble Lords of the city.
Larisa Guzeyev in the film "Diminant"
Photo: Frame from the movie
Communicating with the male world, Larisa felt a sense of humiliation with a male world unconsciously. Alone with him, she often indulged sadly and grief in their fate. The program "I rejected by the male world" leads her to love in Mr. Paratov, who does not appreciate the feeling of love and the manifestation of sensuality in a woman. His values are "full life" and entertainment, including women. In men who block deep feelings in a relationship, as a rule, there is a program "I reject the female world." The blocker is the fear of rejection, so this type of men is focused on material relations with the female world. The relationship leads the mind, the emotional sphere is blocked and does not have the power of influence.
Larisa and Mr. Paratov were attracted by the "rejection" programs, so their relationships are not a reasonable explanation. Ostrovsky wrote an incredibly life product, describing the Russian Nurendannian Programs, thereby turning the attention of society to the mechanism of interaction of human programs.
So how to heal in yourself "the idleness"? The idleness is the victim of circumstances - "Father left life"; "Parents could not create the capital of the family and allocate the attached", "unfavorable parental relationships." The program "I am a victim of circumstances" today is also often found in the consciousness of a modern girl. The first step, which can be done to healing this program, is to realize its destructive belief of "sacrifice". And take the basis of work on themselves a good working tool for the development of your life - a diary of reflection about life, which was transformed into a diary of personal insights due to a higher level of person's awareness of the present generation and deserved confidence in many centuries.
You can take a job one or more of your life and describe all events (actions or inaction) regarding any topic, then feelings, then awareness. Thanks to the regular "diary" therapy, you can go to a higher level of awareness of your life and stand on the path of healing your life programs!