Sex on the first date: "The effect of a red happy"
Everyone without exception, the men want sex on the first date, and it is not anywhere to go anywhere ... So most women consider, confirming the personal experience. But is it really? Of course, in life there are "Sweet Macho", which are beginning to decline women to sex at the first meeting, did not even have time to achieve dessert. However, most often for premature sexual activity of men provoke ... Women themselves.
This is called the "Red Cap Effect". Like the plot of the famous fairy tale of Charles Perro, women rushed into a dark forest in sexy red dresses, no matter how suspected that they are waiting for hazardous gray wolves. Women's provocations can begin to "start the roots" in the correspondence - when the girl herself does not understand, hints man for sex:
- "You know, we have long broke up with the former, I have already had a strong male hugging for a year now";
- "You have such a beautiful, embossed figure - I want to touch";
- "What a pity that we were not familiar before, but we will definitely catch up."
Julia Lansk
Similar phrases The woman may not be enough to turn on the first date, just a swirl, trying not to look hanger and wanting to like a man. However, men are accustomed to all taking literally, so they perceive languid views and swaying cocktails through the tube as direct appeals to sexual intimacy. Later, the "deceived" woman will complain to the best friend on the fact that "he never called back" and "all men are the same." But the playful behavior with culmination in the form of sex on the first date turns a woman to the conquered trophy. Not having time to deepen into her inner world, he, with a high share of probability, does not want a new meeting - the surface goal was achieved, the check mark is delivered, and it's time to move on.
At the same time, the failure of the "Red Cap" from sex on the first date can be chatting in a dead end.
"After all, she hinted on it all evening, and in the end he was insulted and indignant."
How to enroll in the current situation? How to hint a man, what do you like, without becoming a sex object for him? First of all, it is worth stopping accumulating your thoughts near the sexual topic. After all, as you know, thoughts are material. If a woman is greatly worried about when intimate proximity with a man should happen on what kind of date, it is subconsciously "involving" his sexual behavior.
How to properly bypassing the topic of sex on the first date and stop subconsciously hint to a man that sex is exactly what you met today? First of all, relax and put your thoughts in order, try to switch them to what you really want from life. Think about happy marriage, picnics, travels, pleasant romantic surprises ... Yes, just about who you want to become and seeming your future life. Men's reaction will not wait to wait - he will also "turn on" on you, but already in a different sense - deeper and serious.
Relax and put your thoughts in order, try to switch them to what you really want from life
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How to "cool" premature men's gusts
In the life of each woman, the first dates happen, at which a man hints at sex, even if you did not let him down to this topic. This behavior does not mean that you should immediately turn around and slap the door. Learn to "switch" a man using work techniques:
1. We go to humor.
2. We bring the intellectual conversation.
3. Build borders.
Leaving in humor
Humor and wit will help you quickly switch to a man with the theme of sex so that he will literally forget that for another minute ago "drilled look" your neckline. Try that your jokes sound not flat and original. Before meeting with a man, prepare several witty jokes in advance that you can screw on the first date if necessary.
We bring the intellectual conversation
Noticing that the man also hints at sex, translate the conversation into the intellectual plane. Especially well will work the topics in which your chosen one is focused. Speak with programmers about matrices and codes, with surgeons - on innovative operations and recent achievements in the field of medicine. It is important that you are at least a little oriented in the subject of the conversation, so before the first date I recommend to study the intellectual themes that can be interesting to your satellite. If at some point there will be nothing to tell, ask him a question about the conversation. The intellectual conversation quickly and unobtrusively switches the man, allowing you to get away from the delicate theme of sex.
Build borders
By their nature, men are conquerors. They always want to get a "forbidden fruit", which seems unattainable. Proper line building means that you do not impose a veto on the topic of sex, but not yet ready to talk about it, especially - to do it. If, on the first date, a man will try to start an intimate conversation, embarrassedly lower his eyes and parry: "This is a very interesting topic, and I would talk about it with you ... a date on the eighth."
Movility, inexpensiveness and mystery "include" a man from a quarter of turnover. Easy intrigue will cause interest in it, and the eighth date it will still wait. At the same time, he will be able to find out enough to realize: it is not only interested in his sexual start.
When can I?
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When can I?
If first sex happens too early, a man understands that there is nothing more to conquer, and leaves ...
If the moment of the first sex is overly delayed, the man can "reveal" waiting, after which it will also disappear ...
So when does he come - that the right moment? In the matter of first intimate proximity, it is important that for a man she was long-awaited. Imagine a juicy steak - to get it, a man must wait for his readiness. It is the moment of waiting, and not the process of eating a dish, is the most sweet for him. Your first sex should be the most believed steak that a man is waiting to throw his breath. "Preparing the dish," follow the main rules:
"Do not stand up." Excessive waiting for the proximity to months, or even years, often causes fatigue from a man, and he just goes away and without waiting for the "main dish."
Let's hope. A man must understand that in the end he will receive his "award."
Be better for him. Opening every day for a man from a new side, thereby causing admiration and trembling.