It is difficult to say how many girl fate broke the dream of an ideal man, how many not ideal, but worthy men were rejected because of faith in the ideal, how many nerves and time was spent in vain in search of this very ideal. And with all this, there is little from which idea to refuse is as difficult as it is from the idea to meet a man's dreams. But you need to refuse, and the faster you do it, the more chances you will have to build a happy relationship "in real life."
Strange, right? It would seem that, on the contrary, it is worth meeting the perfect man - and happiness will come, harmony and mutual understanding will settle in your home, and love will last forever, and without any effort on your part. But it does not happen. And this is one weighty reason - none of us is ideal.
Where does the steady faith come from?
Not only the classical literature with its invented heroes or Hollywood films with its invented heroes or Hollywood films was to blame, but also upbringing ("You're worthy of the best, do not agree to the smaller, do not come for a compromise). The perfect man is an illusion, and any illusion is harmful if you want to achieve something in the real world. The most important thing is that the need to refuse the idea of searching for the ideal should not just understand, but also accept. Because we are often heading, we understand, but we cannot accept in the soul and continue to act in good sense.
Does this mean that you need to agree on any relationship with any man? Of course not.
Alena Al-Ace
You can choose and necessary, but guided with this sound approach.
First, to understand who you are looking for. What qualities in a man are the most important, most attractive. Looking for a secured businessman? Get ready for what he will disappear at work. Looking for a spectacular handsome and merry? Perhaps you will not be the only hobby. Looking for a good and caring, good father to children? Get ready for your vacation, you will spend not in Mallorca, but in Anapa. Yes, an example is somewhat exaggerated, but visual.
Secondly, free from stereotypes and prejudices. What to talk to him if he does not know who Henry Miller? He has a cheap car - what will my friends say? The human psyche is so arranged that everything is good perceived as granted, and all the flaws are always striking. Think whether these disadvantages are significantly significant against the background of advantages.
Thirdly, do not wait for the relationship instantly. Instantly, the initiation or, on the contrary, dislike, rejection can occur. And those and other sensations may be erroneous. Do not make hasty conclusions. Yes, ideal men, like the ideal relationship, does not happen, but the good news is that creating a happy relationship with a real man is possible and almost every forces.