Hazvina kutombononoka kushanda pakuzvivandudza - kunyangwe iwe unosvika makumi maviri, angangoita makumi mashanu emakore. Uye nhanho yake yakakosha, maererano ne psychotherapist yemazuva ano, ndeyekuwana hunyanzvi hwekudzivirira miganhu yavo. Vanhu vanofarira kubvumirana pane chero mazano uye vanokanganisa, vachitya kugumbura vamwe, kuita chikanganiso chisina kurongeka: vanokanganwa nezve chinhu chikuru muhupenyu hwavo kuti varege kuzvigumbura. Matipi achabatsira kutsungirira nedambudziko uye kutanga hupenyu kubva patsime rakachena.
Sarudza miganhu yekutsungirira kwako
Tora pepa uye uzviparadzanise mumakoramu maviri: Ini ndinobvuma uye handigamuchire. Rangarira kuti vakavakomba sei newe - izvo zvavanoita kuti utambure iwe, uye izvo hazvina kuita manzwiro. Bvunza, nei zvichikosha? Chiitiko ichi chinobatsira kuisa pfungwa pane manzwiro avo mukuparadzaniswa kubva kuSara yenharaunda. Miganhu inosanganisira kuiswa kwenzvimbo yeiyo inobvumirwa uye yakarambidzwa. Saka kune vamwe vanhu kupandukira, mumwe wako achava dambudziko rakakura repfungwa, nepo vamwe vasingaone chero chinhu chinotyisa mazviri uye kuramba uchigara pamwe chete.
Zvakajeka kutsanangura miganhu yeiyo inobvumidzwa
Tarisa mukati mako
Ramba uchishanda pazvinhu zvakadzingwa kana uchiita zvakapfuura kurovedza muviri. Zvibvunze iwe mubvunzo: Chii chandiri kunzwa panguva ino? Nei ichi chiitiko chinondinetsa zvakanyanya? Chinhu chega chega chinogona kudzora huwandu kubva ku1 kusvika kugumi, hunoratidzira simba remanzwiro akasangana nemanzwiro. Munguva yekuzvishingisa kuzvishingisa, unogona kuona manzwiro ekutanga - hazvisi zvekutsamwa kwake. Kazhinji pasi pemask yehasha wakakuviga kutuka, kutya kana kudada. "Kana mumwe munhu anoita nenzira yakadaro kuti unzwe kusagadzikana, nokuti isu iri chiratidzo kuti anogona kutyora kana kuyambuka muganhu," anodaro mhiri kwemakungwa purofesa wepfungwa pamusoro Hyona. Sezvo anga ashandisa matambudziko aya, iwe unogona kuzvisunungura kubva kune mamwe maisimusi uye nekupindura zvakakwana zviito zvevamwe.
Taura zvakanaka
Nditende, chikamu chidiki chevanhu chinokugumbura nemaune iwe, vamwe vanozviita vasingazive kana kuti havaone chero chinhu chinotariswa muchiitiko. Nokutaura zvaunotaura zvinonzwika, iwe unopa munhu kuti anzwisise zviri kuendeswa muganho waaifanira kuenda. Hazvina kufanira kunyadzisa iyo Interlocutor: Kuti musoro hausi nhaurwa yakananga naye, haana ruzivo rwakakwana rwekukurukurirana kuzere kana kuti unotsamwiswa nepfungwa dzake - izvi ndizvo zvakanaka. "Ini handidi kukurukura nezve hupenyu hwangu hwemumwe munhu, kunze kwemumwe wake." "Ngatisarudzei imwe nyaya yekutaura?" - Izwi rekusarerekera rakadaro raunosarudza zvakajeka zvaunovavarira uye usarega manzwiro emumwe munhu.
Inzwa iwe pachako nemunhu akasununguka Sunungura mhosva yako
Bvisa mutoro wekunzwa kwemumwe munhu. Iyo psychology yemutauro ari mukati memakwikwi awo, uye kwete wako. Muhukama nehukama, mumwe wako kana mubereki haazove nemubvunzo pamusoro pekuti iwe unogona kuramba kuita kana kutaura chimwe chinhu - chinoonekwa seaxiom. Iwe unogara zvakasiyana here? Ndiudze munhu nezvemanzwiro ako uye regai nguva yekufunga nezvemamiriro acho - achanzwisisa kuti aive asina kukanganisa uye asisiri kukumanikidza.
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