Munenge mumhuri yega yega, inouya iyo nguva apo idiki, zvingaite sekuti vana, zvichitotangira kutarisirwa uye kutarisirwa, kurwadza, kukura. Ivo vanowanzoda kutora kwavo kwavo kuzvimiririra sarudzo, sarudza zvidzidzo zvavo mune rimwe guta kana nyika, gadzira mhuri yavo yechidiki yechidiki. Iko kunouya nhanho yakaparadzaniswa neyebereko yerudzi rwehupenyu. Pasinei nezvechisikigo chechiitiko ichi, zvinowanzopfuurira zvinorwadza kune wese munhu. Nei zvichingoitika uye maitiro ekuzvidzivirira?
Chii chinonzi "chisina est est syndrome" uye ndiani anotambura
Kuchengeta vana mukukura kunounza vabereki kusagadzikana kwakasimba, kushungurudzika kunoshamisa, dzimwe nguva kushatirwa nekusakundikana kwemamiriro ezvinhu, kusuruvara, kutya, kushaya simba pachako.
Zvese izvi zvinogona kutungamira nyore nyore kuora mwoyo. Dambudziko iri repfungwa rinodaidzwa kuti "isina dendere rest syndrome." Paavhareji, vabereki vanotambura nemwedzi yakati wandei kusvika kumakore akati wandei.
Vazhinji vanokanganisa zvisizvo kuti vanofumurwa vakadzi chete. Nekudaro, mune mamwe mamiriro, murume anotambura neiyi syndrome haasiri zvishoma.
Nadezhda Korneva - Psychologist, Yako Wemunhu Wako Coach, Certified International Coach, nyanzvi yeVana Dzidziso
Maitiro Ekubvisa Syndrome
Zvinoita here kupfava zviitiko zvevabereki? Vanoona kupi mauto kuti ararame "Syndrome ye dendere risina chinhu"?
Chinhu chekutanga kuita kune vese vanaamai nababa kugadzirira iyi nguva isingadzivisiki pamberi. Iwe unogona kutanga nezera rekuyaruka remwana achiri mupenyu newe. Asi hazvisi zvekusaita basa, asi nezve kuchinjiswa kweruzivo. Dzidza hupenyu hwakazvimirira hwemwana: Maitiro ekuchengeta bhajeti, maitiro ekuronga hupenyu, maitiro ekuzviitira iwe pachako uye nevamwe. Dzimwe nguva maitiro aya anodiwa kune vabereki kunyange kupfuura vana. Izvo zvichaderedza alarm uye inoderedza chishuvo chezororo remangwana rose. Pfungwa yechipiri yakakosha ndeyekutanga kufunga nezvehupenyu hwavo hutsva, kudzoreredza kushushikana kwakabatana, kushamwaridzana nehukama, kutsvaga vaunozivana vatsva.
Kana iyo "isina est" syndrome akakuwanira kushamisika, usaora mwoyo. Chinhu chekutanga chaunogona kuzviitira iwe kuti uedze kutora mamiriro ezvinhu sezvazviri, nemanzwiro ese aripo (kusuruvara uye kusakwana, kusapindirana uye kutya). Izvi zvinoshanda kwete chete kuvakadzi chete, asiwo varume.
Hukama pakati pevakaroorana dzinogona kuwedzera kana, pane zvinopesana, kusvika padanho idzva rekuswededzwa. Naizvozvo, zvakakosha kumisa, usatenderedza mune zvako zvakaitika, tarisa-tarisa uye, pamwe, dzidza kuendesa zvakare zvakare neumwe neumwe, kuvimba, kugadzira mitemo mitsva yehupenyu uye tsika dzemhuri.
Yakwana nguva yekutanga kudzidza chimwe chinhu chitsva, yeuka yako yaunofarira mutambo, iyo inogara ichishayikwa nguva. Iwe unogona kuuya netsika nyowani: semuenzaniso, Chishanu chega chega kutenga maruva ekurarama kana michero yekuzvidza, zvese zvakaringana fungidziro. Iwe unogona zvakare kudzokera kumaroto akakanganikwa akakanganikwa kubva kwawakaramba, kukanda simba uye zviwanikwa kurera vana. Semuenzaniso, iwe unogona kutenga imbwa yawakagara ichirota, asi yaisakwanisa, sezvo mwana aive neanopesana, kana kuti aende ku cruise, uye aigona kuenda kuBali.
Kana iwe ukanzwisisa kuti kuyera mumanzwiro asina kunaka, uye iwe haunzwe mukana wekutsungirira nemamiriro ezvinhu ari wega, iwe unofanirwa kubata nyanzvi yepfungwa.
Pamwechete epmilogue .... Iyo "isina dendere" syndrome zvirokwazvo inogogodza vabereki kubva muitiro rut. Asi inogona kutariswa sechinhu chekushandurwa kubva kune imwe nyika yemufaro kuenda kune imwe, semukana wekuzadza hupenyu hwako nehuremu hwakatsva hunoshamisa uye pendi nemavara anopenya.