Muitiro wangu, ini ndinogara ndichienda kushaiwa kwekuvimba mukati medu uye kusakwanisa kuzviongorora zvakakwana. Uyezve, kukosha kwezvinetso izvi kusgereredzwa. Munhu anouya oti: "Sanganisira" chivimbo, "simudza". "Pano, ndinokutendai zvikuru zvitambi kubva mumafirimu ekurudzira kuti kana uchigona kukuudza pamberi pegirazi" iwe Can ", matambudziko ese anogadziriswa. Midzi yematambudziko ekuzvivimba zvakanyanya zvakadzama uye kushanda navo zvakarongeka.
Psychology yakakura
Kuzvishingisa zvisiri izvo kunobva kune isiriyo kukosha system. Uye iyo isiriyo system ndeyekusasinganzwisise zera chairo uye chepfungwa. Kanganwa nezve manhamba ari mupasipoti, kunyangwe muukweguru, vanhu vanokwanisa kugara padanho rekuvandudzwa kwemugadziri wechikoro. Elcusing Psychological zera rakakosha - mhedzisiro haisi iyo nzira dzekukwegura, asi iyo ndima yehunhu hweimwe nzira yekukura. Kana munhu akazvarwa, anofanira kudzidza kuve nemutumbi wake, anobva adzidza kudzora manzwiro uye anounganidza ruzivo uye anodzidza kurarama munharaunda, vechidiki vanozvishongedza muGreatmism, etc. Zvikamu zvekutanga zvinenge zvese, Asi zvazadza zvauri kuitika. Nekuda kweizvozvo, munhu ari munhu mukuru, asi haana kugadzirira hupenyu hwevakuru, uye saka hapana chinoitika.
Munzvimbo yekutumira-yeSoviet, vanhu vazhinji vanonamatira pamucheto wemuyaruka, uye iyi njodzi. Chii chiri kuyaruka? Munhu anovimba nemafungiro emumwe munhu, akagadzirira kukwira kunze kweganda rekutenderwa nemumwe munhu. Panguva ino yehunhu huni, mutemo wetsika (zvinoenderana nekant) hausati aumbwa, chinotsiva kutsvaga kwechiremera chekunze uye kusavapo kwechiitiko chake pane zvakawanda nyaya. Pano une matambudziko mukuzvivimba, uye kusava nechokwadi kusingaperi.
Nzira chete yekubuda ndeyekukura. Marii otadza kuverenga iyo Mantra pamberi pegirazi, chivimbo chaicho chinotanga pamwe neyemwe munhu mukuru. Munhu mukuru - izvi ndizvo zvandinodzidzisa vanotendeukira kwandiri.
1. Usarega kuda kwemanzwiro.
2. Inosarudzira mhedzisiro yezviito.
3. Rumbidza kune iripo uye ramangwana, kwete zvekare.
4. Tarisa chiyero pakati pezvisungo zvemagariro uye zvaunofarira.
5. Shoko rako rekunzwisisa "rakaipa" uye "zvakanaka", kuregedza kutsoropodzwa kwevanhu vane dzimwe pfungwa pamusoro pezvakanaka nezvakaipa.
Usazvituka
Mune dzimwe nyaya, uropi hwedu ndiwo muvengi chaiye kwazvo. Kanzuru "usazvituka" ini ndakapa muitiro wangu, pamwe, mamirioni. Patakazvitora isu pachedu, isu tinogara tisiri pasi uye tichawedzera uye takatarisana nezvakaitika zvakatoitika izvo zvisingaonekwe. Isu tinomhanyisa aya mapeji anonyadzisa ari mumusoro uye tazviranga pachedu nekuda kwekuti haichakwanisi kuchinja. Ehe, hapana chivimbo mandiri, hapana kuzvivimba uye kutaura kunogona kuva. Iwe wapfuura makore makumi maviri apfuura, ini ndakadya babushkino jam ndikaraswa mukatsi! Ah kwete kwete kwete! Sezvazviri, munhu akaipa akadaro haana kukodzera kubhadhara muhoro, hapana chinhu kunyange chekurongedza sahwira.
Chivimbo chichauya kana iwe uchirangarira kuti zvakapfuura hazvisi. Yapfuura yakapfuura. Kune chete chaicho chete, chinoda kuti iwe utariswe zvakanyanya uye kusvinura. Naizvozvo:
1. Kuzvimisa pachako kumira.
2. Ini ndinorangarira zvikanganiso zvekare chete nechinangwa chekuongorora uye handichadzokorore.
Dzidza Kuti Uti "Kwete"
"Kwete" - izwi remashiripiti mune yedu lexicon. Tsamba idzi nhatu dzinokuchengetedza kubva kuManipulators dzinogara dzichidzora zvikumbiro zvako kugadzirisa zvese - matambudziko avo ese. Nei zvichikosha? Nekuti paunoita bhizinesi rekunyengera kwako, rako bhizinesi harina basa. Saka kusagutsikana nazvo. Uye ramba uchityisa, nekuti iwe uchafunga zvakaipa ipapo - uye munhu ari muchikamu chepfungwa akakosha pfungwa dzevamwe! Iye zvino iwe unonzwisisa kuti nei takatanga nekukurukurirana kwezera repfungwa?
Kana aya matatu mavara emashiripiti anopiwa kwauri nekunetseka, shandisa izvi:
1. Nzwisisa kuti kuramba kunonzwisisika hakuiti iwe munhu akaipa.
2. Ziva: Kukundikana hazvireve kuti unobata munhu zvakaipa. Uyo anoti zvakapesana - kuti Manipulator.
3. Pakutanga, isa zvakajairwa - 10 "Kwete" pazuva. Iwe unogona kuramba gumi kagumi nekuda kwechikonzero chero chipi zvacho - zvakanaka kwazvo! Kana zvakaoma, kanokwana kashanu.
4. Kana iwe usingakwanise kuwana mauto ekuramba, zvibvunze iwe kana iyo yekupedzisira nguva iwe wakumbira rubatsiro kubva kune uyu munhu uye akagamuchira rubatsiro urwu. Rangarira - Rubatsiro. Uye mumakesi mapfumbamwe kubva gumi nehana yakachena hana, taura manipulator "kwete".
Kune izvi zvitatu, chechina, banal: chishuwo. Kana iwe uri mune yekuvandudza nhanho ye "kuyaruka", kuti uwedzere kukura, iwe unofanirwa kuita nhamburiko huru uye kugara uchiongorora kukurudzira kwako. Iwe uchafanira kunge uri baron munchhausen, uyo akaburitsa kunze kweMash yeiyo pigtail. Muhupenyu chaihwo, hunyengeri hwakadai haungatenderi kudzima fizikisi, asi muPsychology, kukurudzira kwakanyanya kunoita zvishamiso. Shanda iwe pachako, usakanda mapfumo pasi, uye pamwe chete neyekuwedzera kusikwa uye kuzvivimba.