Psychological manipulation ndiyo inonyanya kujairika nzira yekutaurirana. Mumhuri pavakakundikana kuvaka hukama mukutaurirana zvakananga (handidi kudaro, ndapota), kutaurirana, kuita zvinokanganiswa, hunyanzvi hwekuita. Rudzi rwakafanana runyararo runowanzoteverwa muhukama hwevana vakuru nevabereki. Uye, chokwadika, inokonzera matambudziko.
Kazhinji tinoona chimiro chakadai chekutaurirana kwevabereki nevana vavo vakuru, segwenzi. "Ukasaita, haungadzoki nenguva, hauzomboparadzanisi musikana uyu - ndicharwara nemoyo, kumanikidzwa kuchasvetuka." Uye inosvetuka, uye kurwiswa kunoitika. Kana kutarisira kutuka:
Kunzwa kwekutadza ndekwekumanikidza nzira yekuita mwana mukuru mwana anodiwa nemubereki wake. "Ndakakupa, vamwari vanorwara zvakadaro, manga vari kurwara kazhinji, nekuda kwenyu hauna kuenda kubasa, ini handina kuroora nekuda kwenyu, - uye imi!" " uyezve rondedzero, izvo zvausingaiti kuna amai vako kana baba vako. Akagumburwa anovhara, akanyarara uye chete dzimwe nguva anotarisa iwe uine mbeveve repar. Kana kuti haitarise kudivi rako zvachose, izvo zvinoonekwawo zvakanyanya nevana, kunyangwe kana vakave vakuru.
Leturer RGgu, Psychologist Maria Andreeva
Zvishandiso Zvimedu masevhisi
Kudzvinyirira kwekushamisika kunozonzwa vana mukero yavo, uye chishuvo chekuwana rudo rwemasimba evabereki kutanga kuita zvese kana zvakawanda zvaari kuda kuti mukuru. Kubvumidzwa "kwete vana vakakwana vakakwana" kazhinji kunogona kunzwiwa mumhuri. Zvese zvaunoita, zvichagara zvakashata, asi munhu akanaka: muvakidzani, hama yake, kuna muzukuru.
Wese munhu anonzwisisa mashandiro anoita mashandiro, asi zvemukati zviwanikwa uye kutendeseka kushaikwa navo kuitira kuti arambe kanenge hafu yavo. Vana vakuru vanoremekedzeka "vanhu vakuru." Ivo vanorangarira kuti inguvai yavakaisa mari iyi kuti vakure, ipai dzidzo, kumwe kubayira zvido zvavo. Kazhinji, kuziva uku kunouya kana vana vavo vakazvarwa, saka vakagadzirira kukundwa nehunyanzvi hwevabereki vavo vakura. Zvinoitika kuti vana vakuru vanoita sekunge vabereki vavo vakarurama, vakaita zvese zvekuti iye, mwana, ndosaka asina kodzero yeupenyu hwake.
Vana vanonyengera vabereki vanowanzove mupfungwa, vasina hanya, havanzwe kukosha kwevabereki, kunyanya kubva pakubvumirana nevabereki, vachigara vachizvipomera zvese muzvinhu zvese, dzivisa kusawirirana, kusangana. Kazhinji havazomboita basa re "vanobatwa".
Imwe nzira yekugadzirisa kupokana ndeyekuvakazve hukama hwako nevabereki vanonongedza. Iyi ndiyo nzira yakakura kwazvo, asi panguva imwechete inonyanya kuoma. Vanhu vazhinji havatendi kuti hukama hwavari kuverengerwa kubva paudiki hunoshanduka kuchinja.
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1. Chekutanga, zvakakosha kuti unzwisise uye uzive kuti nyonganiso yevabereki haina zvakaipa. Ivo vanobva kune mutoro wakasarudzika, kubva mukusagadzikana mumasimba avo, kubva mukuda kwekuita zvakanaka newe. Mukupedzisira, nekuti Amai, zvimwe, muhuduku, zvakare kunyengedza vabereki vake.
2. Kutsvaga kuti amai variwo munhu, kujekesa munhu worudzii. Unoziva chii nezvehudiki hwake nehudiki, hukama nevabereki, nezve nei akasarudza basa rake. Chero ruzivo rwakakosha. FUNGIDZIRA kuti iwe unounganidza zvinhu zve biography yayo. Inzwa senge munhu mukuru wevabereki vavo pachavo. Chokwadi mune chimwe chinhu chaunonyanya kuwana, kunze, iwe unoshongedza mhinduro yakakura kuti umire kuve chinhu chekunyengerera. Edza kubata mubereki wako-kune-manipulator so chiremba ari kumurwere: zvakanaka, zvakasimba, nemoyo murefu. Hapana chikonzero chekusvikwa, taura, tsvaga hukama. Pamberi pako pamuchinjiko pakati pemurwere nemwana. Usa "kupatsanura" kune mubereki anoedza kukukwevera mukunyanya uye usatarise kune ese evabereki ongororo achipinda kero yako.
3. Zvakanaka, shure kwaizvozvo, iwe unofanirwa kutanga kuvaka zvakare hukama hwako nevabereki vako. Kune rimwe divi, zvishoma nezvishoma kuwedzera kure kure pakati pavo uye hupenyu hwayo hwakavanzika. Usabvumire vabereki kunzvimbo yako pachako, usaite mukana wekutyisa iwe uine mafoni. Zviri nani kuzvidaidza iwe pachako - uye kwete maererano nehurongwa, asi zvisingatarisirwi.
4. Kune rimwe divi, vabereki havafanirwe kuve nefungidziro yekuti iwe uchivasundira kubva muhupenyu hwako: ratidza kuchenjera, ipa zvipo zvidiki, kana uine mukana - enda pamwe chete. Mukupedzisira, ndiani mukuru mukuru pano - iwe kana vabereki here? Dyara kuvabereki chimwe chidzidzo: Kurasikirwa kwehuremu, kushanyira dziva, kuteerera mhedhibodhi, kufarira nguva dzose, maitiro ekuita, dzimwe nguva iwe unogona kugaya kubheka.