Mutsara uyu, zvakajeka uye zvinonzwika, iwe unonzwa zvinyarire kubva kuvakadzi. Vazhinji vevasikana vekushamwaridzana kuchikoro, yunivhesiti nevatinoshanda navo pabasa vakananga pazera iri vakatorwa nemhuri, vana. Mifananidzo yebato remuchato, mukadzi wechidiki anofara, nhanho dzekutanga dzevacheche dzaisava nenzvimbo dzemagariro chete kana mukadzi akadzingwa.
Uye regai maitiro idzva aitaura na10 Izvo zvese zvinotanga, vanoti nguva ino yekuvaka basa, vachiita mukati mavo, vachinakidzwa uye vanogara pane imwe nguva yakakwana, zvese zviri pamoyo kubva kunyadziswa. Vakadzi vanozvarwa muma1980s vanokanganiswa netsika dzakasiyana-siyana. Sezvo achiri mudiki, mauchange asati ave nenhau dzinoshanda dzakadaro, makanga mune mitambo yemwanasikana wamai, pamwe nekufungidzira kwakawanda pane iyo nyaya "Santa Barbara". Vasikana venguva idzodzo vanoziva chaizvo kuti vanofanirwa kukoshesa tsika dzemhuri pamusoro pevamwe.
Sezvo asvika pamakore makumi matatu ega, rukudzo rwevakadzi vakadaro runosvika zvakakomba zvakakomba. Psychology inodaidza ichi chiitiko che "nzanga neurosis." Ndokunge, mukadzi achiri mupfungwa haagoni kugadzirira kuumba hukama, mhuri uye chimiro chevana, asi chinomuudza kuti mukusurukirwa kwechimwe chinhu chisina kujairika.
Iko kutya kwekuve imwe mhando ye "kuremara" kune hanya kugadzirisa nyaya iyi chero mutengo. Kazhinji zvinoshanda sebasa rakaipa. Nekuwedzera alarm, mukadzi anouya muhukama nekuda kwekuti izvo zvinodikanwa kuti "isa tika" kuti akanaka. Imwe neimwe yekuedza isina kubudirira inova turgeric fiasco, saka kuvimba kuri kuramba kuchikura kukura kuti "chinhu chisina kunaka neni", uye zvese zvitsva. Saka denderedzwa rinovhara.
Panzvimbo pekunyatsokura uye kugadzirira hupenyu hwemhuri, vakadzi vanotsaurwa kuratidza kuti zvakajairika. Uchapupu huno hunowanzo kugadziriswa kunaamai kana vanababa, dzimwe nguva - vaimbove vakabatana naye, mhuri dzainge dzakundikana. Nekudaro, izvi kuedza hakutakura chero rurongo uye kugadzirira kwehupenyu hwemhuri. Mukuedza uku, mukadzi anova akatonyanya zvakanyanya, wary, kushungurudzika. Iko hakuna hukama hune hutano pano.
Kazhinji kusavapo kwemashure akasimba mune fomu yekubatana kwemhuri kunoruramiswa nebasa rakabudirira nebasa remari. Mushure mezvose, hazvigoneke kunzwa iyo loser pese pese. Naizvozvo, iwe kazhinji unogona kusangana nemukadzi mudiki nebasa rinoshamisa, chisimba uye chekuda uye chinzvimbo chekusakwanisa kuvaka hukama hwepedyo.
Ungaziva sei "Nharaunda neurosis" pane iyi nyaya? Ehe, nyore kwazvo:
- Kana iwe uchizorerazve nepfungwa yekuti unotova nemakore mazhinji, uye hapana mhuri uye vana;
- Kana iwe uri kurira basa rakabudirira pamapato uye vakapedza kudzidza uye vanosangana uye vanonamatira kuti hupenyu hwega ubvunzwe;
- Kana iwe uchidzidza pachivande nzvimbo pane yekufungidzira fetiralization;
- Kana iwe uri mukuora mwoyo, kuteerera shamwari dzako kukurukura varume vako kana vana, saka zvakatoitika kwauri (zvakapa kuti iwe watowana zera ... ye25, ngatiti);
- Kana iwe ukanyengedzwa zvishoma nezvishoma nekushushikana uye kusuwa kuti muchinda wako haasisina chirevo uye haasati auya, unogona kuisa zvakachengeteka kuongororwa uku.
Asi pfungwa yacho haisi yekurega kuteerera kune hurukuro uye makuhwa enzvimbo. Kunyangwe iwe ukazvidzidzisa kuti urege kufuratira majenji kuwanano, saka muvakadzi vanonyatsotarisisa pamhuri, kutsamwiswa uye kusagadzikana hakuzoende chero kupi. Mune mamwe mazwi, ini ndoda kugadzira mhuri, asi mune ino nyaya kune matambudziko mazhinji, kurwadziwa uye kupererwa, izvo zviri nyore kutarisisa nazvo uye kusabata vanga zvakare zvakare.
Vazhinji vakawandisa vevakadzi vakakwidza pamusoro apa kune nyaya idzi kune vepfungwa uye varapi, vakawanikwa nekuda kwebasa iro dingindira remhuri neukama ". Yakaunganidza marwadzo mazhinji, anotya, kutsamwa. Semutemo, unogadzirwa kubva kumhuri dzekutanga dzaizokurai vakadzi ava. Vakatarisa vabereki vako, vakasvika pakufunga kuti zvaive nani pane izvozvo. Kana kuti hazvizoshande kunze, uye hapana achanditsiva nerudo rwemhuri yangu.
Nhanho nhanho, kuburitsa tambo dzezvakare uye dziripo, kuwana chinzvimbo chomunhu, nhamba yakakura yevakadzi vakadaro vachiri kusangana nevane vakaroorana uye vagadzire mhuri, vanozvara vana. Kunyanya nekuti ivo vachiri kuzviisa kuzviisa kuti vabvume kuti vanoda kutsigirwa kugadzirisa iyi nyaya yekufunga.
Zvichakadaro ...
Kunze kwenyika, haisi tsika kuverenga zera remukadzi kusvika pamakore makumi matatu. Pane chivimbo chekuti mushure memakore makumi matatu chete nguva inotanga apo murume nemukadzi vafunge nezvekugadzira mhuri, uye pfungwa yemamiriro ezvinhu e "pwere" yapedzwa mumakore makumi mana. Uye humbowo hweizvi rakawanda pakati penyeredzi dzeHollywood. Semuenzaniso, mutambi anozivikanwa Penelope Cruz akaroora mutambi wechiSpaneti ane makore makumi matatu nematanhatu, Eva mamakore atove nemakore makumi mana, asi haasati atofunga nezvewanano, Leonardo di Caprio mumakore ake makumi matatu nemashanu zvakare hazvina kumbobvira zvaroora. Charlize vaTron - ane makore 38, haana kumbobvira akaroora, asi iye zvino mutambi anenge achiedza kuita basa reMwenga: Zvinoenderana nemishumo yeMedia, nyeredzi iri kutogadzirira muchato neSean penn. Muimbi weColombian Shakira akawana mufaro wake pamakore makumi matatu nematatu - chaizvo pazera iri mutambi wacho akatanga kusangana nemutambi wenhabvu Gerard Peak, uye mushure mechinguva akabereka mwanakomana wake. Chokwadi, vaviri vacho havasati vaburukira hukama hwayo - Shakira anotenda kuti chitambi chiri mupasipoti hazvina basa.
Maria Zemskova, Psychologist, Mhuri Inarapist uye Zvinotungamira Zvekudzidzisa Kwemunhu Kudzidzisa Center Mika Khazina