Kupesana ndiko kunonyanya kufarirwa uye kunowanzoita kupatsanurwa uye kurambana. Ehe, chinhu chinorwadza icho vanhu dzimwe nguva zviri nyore kuparadzira pane kurarama mukutarisira kana kutyisidzira kuti ichadzokorora zvakare.
Alan naBarbara Piz, American varapani, vanokatyora kuti varume vavanze varombo kuvanzika kwehukama hwehukama, asi vakadzi, pane zvinokonzeresa ichi chakavanzika. Uye kana vakadzi vasingade kuzviita pachena, ipapo mumwe wavo achangofanira kufungidzira zviri kuitika. Panguva imwecheteyo, varume vanochinja kaviri savakadzi. Uyezve, vavariro, kusundira izvo nevamwe pane hukama hwakafanana nehukama, hwakasiyana zvachose. Vanyaridzi mumwe chetewo vakati mutumbi wemurume wacho waigadzirwa nehormoni ine mhosva yekuda. Kutenda kune ino mahormone, ivo vanova hutsinye uye vanyengerera, kutsvaga nzvimbo mumukadzi. Nekuuya kwemubatiri wemunhu asingagumi, kukudziridza kweiyi hormoni kuri kuderera zvishoma, zviyero, asi hazviendi chero kupi. Iye murume anofanira kuhwina zvakare, tsvaga, kuyedza kwekuda uye kuchiva. Neichi, mumwe wake anofanira "kuzvinyengerezve." Asi kazhinji kazhinji, kunyengedzwa hakuitike nekuda kwemamwe mararamiro: kuvharwa kubasa, vana, hupenyu, kurasikirwa kwechimiro. Mukadzi wacho anozotangawo mhirizhonga yeunyoro, rudo, kugadzira dendere. Pfungwa dzake uye zvinangwa zvinangwa zvekusimbisa mhuri nehukama, kazhinji haafunge nezve izvo zvinova zvishoma pabonde rako. Naizvozvo, varume vanokunda vakadzi kudivi. Zvirinani izvi zvinotsanangura kusasimira nzira yekubereka.
Kurera kwevakadzi ndiko, pane zvinopesana, zvikonzero zvepfungwa chete. Vakadzi vanoenda kune "kuruboshwe" nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakati: kunzwa kurwara kwemurume wake, kuda kuzviratidza kwavari kuti vachiri kudiwa kune varume. Kana kutsiva nekuda kwekunyepedzera womumwe wake.
Psychology yemhuri inoratidza kuti kumaseva kuchema kwekubatsirwa muukama hwemuchato. Vabati vari kusangana nekukanganiswa kukuru muhukama (pamwe nerudo, kuvimbika, kuzivikanwa, kuvandudza, uye kuiita "nzira yakachengeteka" uye yakachengeteka "nzira kune mumwe munhu. Kazhinji, kurwa kunoshanda sedhimoni rehukama uye dambudziko redambudziko kubva kune vakaroora. Zvese zvisina kusarudzika zvinyoro-nyoro uye chido chinowana chechitatu, chinhambwe pakati pevakaroorana chinowedzera uye chinova chakachengeteka. Vazhinji vakaroora vanodzorwa nenzira yekutengesa, vachibvumira vakaroorana kuti vasiye uye vachengetedze hukama hwakanaka, hunoremekedza uye hwakarurika uye hunogara. Dambudziko chete nderekuti kuvapo kwedombo rakadai kune sinus, sekubatana kwakafanana, usabvumidza vakaroorana kuti vasiye uye vimbe zvachose. Nezvakavanzika zvavo, ivo vanobhadhara kuve pedyo uye hukama, izvo zvinogona kugadzirwa nemudiwa.
Nyaya yacho haisi nyore kuchinja kurapwa. Kune vaviri vakaroorana vanofanira kubvuma kuti kutsanangurwa inzira yekutsungirira nedambudziko iri kubva muhukama. Kunyangwe iro rakakanganisika richida kupomera mumwe wako murwonda uye ronda rakaputirwa, kupora kwazvino, kupora kunouya vaviri vaviri kana vakasika mamiriro akadaro, uye yechipiri yakabvumirana neizvi.
Iye akachinja, zvinodikanwa kuti ave mukuru wekusangana nekurwadziwa kwese kwaakakonzera mumwe wake. Usaedze kuinatsa, ipa pachena vimbiso dzenhema, ndapota tisungwa. Ingoziva chokwadi chekuti anokanganisa ronda, richagara riri pakati pavo kusvika padanho rimwe kana rimwe.
Uyezve, vaviri vaviri vanofanira kutora chokwadi chekuti chiitiko ichi hachizomboita hukama hwavo hwacho. Uye kana vaviri vachange vakagadzirira kuti vave vakuru kubvumirana pane izvi shanduko, saka kudzoserwa kunogoneka.
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Nyeredzi dzinowanzotarisana nadzo nekuroora kusatendeka, nekuda kwekuti kwakasimba kwemuchato unowira pasi. Semuenzaniso, chikonzero cheDimi Kurambana kweDemi Mouore vakava mhiri kwemhere: Vatambi vakabata neyechidiki Sarah lil mune imwe yemahoteri akakurumbira pazuva regore rechitanhatu remuchato wake naDomi. Kwechinguva, vaviri vacho vakaedza kuchengetedza mhuri, asi pakupedzisira, Moore aisakwanisa kumuregerera kwake.
Uye heano dzimwe nyeredzi dzisina nyeredzi - David naVictoria Beckham - vakamira mumwe nemumwe. Midhiya inowanzoonekwa runyerekupe pamusoro pepfuma zhinji dzemutambi wenhabvu, asi mukadzi wake akangofunga nezvekurambana. Nekudaro, semhedzisiro, vaviri vacho vakasarudza kuyananisa: ZveVictoria, chishandiso chakanakisa kubva muchato ndiko kuberekwa kwemumwe mwana.
Maria Zemskova, Psychologist, Mhuri Inarapist uye Zvinotungamira Zvekudzidzisa Kwemunhu Kudzidzisa Center Mika Khazina