Nyanzvi - Yakawedzera-kirasi Psychologist ine makore gumi nemana yeMoscow, mutambi wezveproji, mutambi wekudzidzisa uye vhidhiyo tutorials Ekaterina Fedorov - anotenda kuti mukadzi wese anofanira kuva nechakavanzika
Mushure memuchato, hupenyu hwemurume nevakadzi vanoyerera zvakanaka mune imwe chiteshi: matambudziko akajairika, bhajeti rimwe rekurara. Isu tinodzidza kubva mumabhuku ayo mukadzi haafanire kuviga chero chinhu kubva kumurume uye panguva imwe chete irambe chakavanzika. Asi sei kushamisika kwemweya wako wemurume mushure memakore gumi ekurarama, apo iyo yekupedzisira kadhi yehwamanda yakabudirira kubudiswa ?! Ndedzipi nyaya dzekurangarira, uye ndeipi - yekuenda munguva yakapfuura, kuti chii chekubvunza uye kana chiri nani kutumira nekanzuru ?!
Pane zvimwe misoro iri mukuda kwemukadzi kuti arambe ari pasi pekukiya Pasina kuzviita kunze kwechakavanzika ichi nemaune, asi zvakadaro, uye pasina ruzivo rwakadzama. Imwe yeaya misoro Kune hutano hwako . Pane chimwe chizvarwa chevasekuru vedu nevazukuru zvakajairika kuti vasape murume wake mumaronda avo. Takaenda kuna chiremba, kunyangwe pasina murume kumba, kubvisa nhumbu kwaive chakavanzika. Kunyangwe paine chirevo: "Mukadzi ane hutano anoda mukadzi ane hutano, uye nekudaro mukadzi aine dambudziko rehutano, murume uyu haafanire kuziva nezvazvo. Iye zvino zvinhu zvese zvakasiyana, asi munzvimbo yekare yeasekuru vedu, chokwadika, yaive huchenjeri hwake. Kunyanya munhu haafanire kunyorera matambudziko ne gynecology. Chero, kunyangwe matambudziko asingakoshamwariki anosangana ne gynecology, varume vanotyisa. Uyezve, ivo vasingazive kuziva mukadzi ne "chirwere chechikadzi" sezvakaremara.
Zvimwe zvinoshanda kuti Kuzvara mwana muHupo hwemurume . Kwenguva yakati zvaive zvakajeka, asi zvidzidzo zvazvino zvinoratidza kuti vazhinji vevarume vake varipo mukuzvara mwana vanorasikirwa nemukadzi wavo pabonde nemukadzi wake pabonde. Mukuwedzera, hapana chirevo chinonyangadza mukuvapo kwavo. Panguva ino iwe unoda hunyanzvi nyanzvi, uye kwete murume mune smidacity. Kwete pasina, madzitateguru edu haana kurega murume wake ari pedyo neyechokwadi - ambuya, akarohwa kunze kwemusha.
Zvirwere zvinobatanidzwa nemoyo, chiropa, uchifara uye zvimwe zvinhu zvese, usatyisa varume. Kunyangwe pasina mamwe maitiro uye ruzivo pano - ichi hachisi chinhu. Ehezve, kana iwe uchirwara uye uchida kutarisirwa, anofanirwa kukutarisira: akapfeka mishonga yechipatara, tengai mishonga, etc.,
Imwe "yakavharwa" musoro ndeyako Aimbova . Iwe ungangodaro, padanho rekudanana, akamupa mashoma anodiwa ruzivo, uye haachatsigire kutaura uku. Uye pano hazvisi pamusoro pemurume, asi mauri. Iwe haufanire kurangarira iyo yekutanga uye isingade kutaura nezvavo - kana nemurume wake, kana neshamwari, nemumwe munhu. Kana iwe uchigara uchirangarira yako yekutanga, kuronga zano Funga nezvekunze - iwe zvishoma nezvishoma uchaparadza kunzwa kwako kwemurume wangu. Psyche ine hutano haapo pawakasarudza murume wako, uye neyako yese yebonde, uye mwoyo wako, uye uropi hwako hunotungamirwa kwaari.
Ndiine murume wangu, mamiriro acho ezvinhu anodzokera - zvakanyanya kukuziva nezvake, zvirinani . Murume wangu anofanirwa kukudziridza tsika yekutaura pamusoro pezvaakaita, kwaaive, paakapedza zuva. Kutanga, iwe uchazviziva zvakanaka, uye nokudaro, unzwisise. Izvi zvatove zvakare. Uye chechipiri, kana akakuudza anenge makore matatu mumutsara nezve nguva yake yese yechokwadi chehupenyu, ipapo kwegore rechina achanyepa kwazvo. Kupfuura zvese, nekuti izvi zvinodikanwa kuti ugadzire chokwadi chitsva, kushandisa simba rakawanda. Uye, chokwadika, iwe unowana kukosha kukuru kupfuura vatenzikadzi, nekuti haufanire kunyepa sedhinda. Achanyepi nhema? Chii chisina kuroora? Zvichiri kuitika. Iwe uchafunga nezvako zvakawanda pamusoro pako, kuti ushandise mauto akawanda pauri, uye pakupedzisira iwe uchave uri mune imwe mamiriro ekukunda. Ingo gadzirira chokwadi chekuti iwe unonyatsotaura murume uye zvakanyanya kuitira kuti uzviite netsika inogona kunge isiri yakapusa sezvazvinoita.
Isu, vakadzi, zvakanyanya kuvhurika, zviri nyore kuti isu tikurukure nematambudziko edu, manzwiro edu, tinogona chete kutora pendi rekurukura kuti tikurukure. Hatina kana nguva dzose zvakanyanya, neyairi: nevasikana, vamwe vevatinoshanda navo, nevamwe vanhu kubva pamutsetse. Isu, pane zvinopesana, dzimwe nguva ruzivo rwakazvimiririra rwakazvimirira parurani vanhu vasina kujairika. Vakadzi vanowanzo kushanyirwa nevanofunga nezvepfungwa, vanopa mazano, makosi akasiyana siyana nekudzidziswa. Asi Varume vese vanopfeka mukati mavo , ivo vanonetsa kutora uye kuratidzira panguva imwe chete. Ivo vanofanirwa kuvadzidzisa.
Iva psychotherapist yemurume wako uyo anogona kuunza pamwe chete, vhura uye teerera. Mudzimai anofanira kunge ari wepfungwa, uye iyi ndiyo ruzivo rwakanyanya kukosha kuti mukadzi anofanira kuve nawo. Ingo ingova nehungwaru, inotyisa murume ane nyanzvi yehunyanzvi uye ngarava nekuumbwa kwavo, kunyangwe iwe ukanyatso pedza kudzidza kuyunivhesiti yepfungwa. Iwe haudi. Asi kutaurirana kwenguva refu uye kwakadzama nezve mashandisiro aakaita zuva raiitika pabasa rake, vainoshanda navo uye vakaroorana. Chinhu chikuru ndechekurega kuramba kubva kumaSoviet. Kazhinji kazhinji, murume akamirira rutsigiro kubva kwauri. Iwe unogona kumubatsira kuenda kuchisarudzo chakaringana, asi usayedze kudzora zvako. Bvunza: "Unofungei iwe pachako? Uye zvaunazvo? " Kazhinji munhu wokuwana mhinduro yedambudziko, iwe unofanirwa kududza zvipikidzo zvako zvinonzwika uye nharo - uye iye achanzwisisa kwaakange ari kutadza, uye kwaaive chaiko. Kana iwe ukaona kuti iye anofuratira mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu uye saka anotora sarudzo ine mukurumbira - teerera kune aya mamiriro, asi sarudzo yacho inofanira kutora murume.
Usakurumidza kuve bhuku kuverenga, siya mamwe mapeji akasungwa. Kana murume achiziva zvese pamusoro pako, zvese, iye, haangoregi kukuda, asi kufarira kurasikirwa.